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Why cant my husband figure out his daughter is playing him!

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Submitted by tryingtomakeit on Tue, 07/03/2012 - 10:11am

So, we have moved and we dont get to see the sd as much as we once did (Thank goodness). But, when she does come we have to act like we have been graced by the Queen of England.

The past 2 months she has not been. She has either been on vaca or sick. Well, twon night ago he said told me he thought his daughter would be coming ans staying with us for the 4th.

Well, yesterday he informed me that she had called and was running a high fever and and bronchitis. Ok, first and foremost if she is sick she can stay with the momma. I dont want her here around us.

But, later on last night I saw on FB that she had a friend over spending the night. Ok, there is something funny going on. You can hanve someone spend the night and you are running a higg fever. HMMMMM....I think she just made up something so she doesnt have to come.

I dont want to tell my husand about it...becasue I dont want to take a chance of her coming. If she comes she will make everyone miserable.

I think my husband just got played and doesnt even know it...by his little angel! YEAH RIGHT!

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DaizyDuke's picture

Submitted by DaizyDuke on Tue, 07/03/2012 - 10:31am

I'm all for my SD playing my DH if that means I don't have to see her. Like I know from reading her twitter (which DH is clueless about) that she went on a teen cruise at one of the lakes in our area. I KNOW that DH knew nothing about this, she actually lied and told him she needed 20 bucks to go to dinner with her friends. I also know from her twitter, that some older random kid drove her and all her 13-14 year old friends to and from this event. No way, no how will I tell DH and risk that she be grounded and crammed up my butt!

Now, if SD is playing DH when it comes to spending money and playing him against BM, then I get pissed and say something about it.. but visitation stuff? Nope, gotta pick your battles!

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Submitted by Sweetnothings on Tue, 07/03/2012 - 10:33am

My DH is still being played , and because he doesn't check anything out ( he doesn't want to ROCK the boat, still to this day !! And believes that if you don't see it then EVERYTHING is ok !!) he remains in rosy coloured ignorance is bliss, and MUCH easier ( for HIM!! ) lala land concerning skids !!!

Recent stuff which annoys me.... I ask him if he asks younger skid about finding work ( it's been a year, no work at all, left school due to low grades, is nearly 19 !! CS ends SOON !! ) , they talk online , DH said, sometimes he asks younger skid about a job and stuff, but if he bugs him, he is worried he'll upset HIM and then the skid WON'T TALK to him AT ALL ?? WTF ??

DH thinks I hate sd21 , I'm disengaged with her, LONG story, I'm just DONE with her histrionics and I do not ALLOW toxic people in my own space, sucking up my air !! }:) He thinks I can't FORGIVE her and MOVE on with her !!! To where exactly ??? I forgave her bad behaviour over and OVER again, for many years, but the respect is gone for good, therefore the relationship with her is gone.

Even as recently as a month ago DH was telling some friends, that he still feels guilty about leaving the kids ( he was married to the BM) and this is like over 17 years LATER !!! :jawdrop: Guilty Dad syndrome, though he HATES me saying that to him, hmmmmm.....