FMIL/BM vs. FH - this is a mess - just ranting.
My last two blogs were pretty easy to understand. I moved out of FMIL's where FH has to reside until I can get out of school and take over the business and pay our mortgage. (We'll have our own house by this time next yeeaarr! Finally!)
FMIl has gone mad. she is really angry that i moved out. FH has been keeping the kids away from her as much as possible. my last blog summed up real quick:
FMIL was mad at FH and I for asking her not to say certain things around the kids because we don't want them going to school and saying bad things. we'll get blamed for sure. she wigged out - in front of the kids (f this f that...yada yada) - for her revenge on us for telling her not to do something was to invite BM over to hang out - while we were home. she doesn't even like her. not to mention the only connection FH has to have with her is bc of the kids. other than that - he wants nothing to do with that crazy bat either. So...that's what happened and now she is throwing a tantrum because I Officially cut myself off with her - now who will she fight with? FSIL and her husband (FH's brother) moved a whole hour away - and she won't leave her house so now she has no one's life to ruin..but now this happened...
FMIL and BM are one FH's @$$...
They want FH to spend more time with the kids. We only have them Saturday and Sunday. They go to school Monday through Friday...He works Sunday - Thursday 3 - 12 a.m. now. Friday is OUR day as a couple and then Saturday and Sunday until he goes to work we have the kids. WHERE is he supposed to get more time? Other than taking away our Friday (Not to sound ignorant - but what about me? WE need a day together...just us. why give up one day?) They aren't making any sense. He is so mad he said FINE! I'll just quit my job? Then she will have to find another way to get support. The point they seem to be making is that "He and I" just can't have a day to ourselves. That is what they want. It's not going to happen...
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I envy that you guys have
I envy that you guys have ONE day alone a week together... DH and I haven't had ONE day alone together (no work, no skid) - in almost a year (oh that was our HONEYMOON!) - we leave on vacation for 3 days in a little less than 2 weeks - and I am so excited for our alone time that you have no idea.
I honestly would NOT give up your ONE alone day together, it has been so difficult for us to NOT have a full day together alone - sometimes it makes me doubt how strong we can be.. KWIM?
Be strong - stand your ground...Good luck!
I don't blame ou for wanting
I don't blame ou for wanting one day a week to spend with your FH. Of course FMIL & BM are going to push for FH to spend more time with the kids since they think this will put a wedge into your relationship. Kudos to you & your FH for not letting this happen. It would be different if your FH had a different work schedule, say like straight days & could see the kids one or two nights a week. I don't believe they want this for the benefit of the kid. By making this request right now, under the current circumstances, their motives are suspect.
I wish you the best. I am also in school & know how hard it is keep motivated & give up certain things in order to reach your goal. I can't even imagine how hard it would be if I had to live with my MIL (& she is a relatively nice person compared to the nightmare you have). Keep your chin up... only 6 more months til' graduation. If you have to stay at your parents until you graduate then do it. Once you graduate & are able to get you own place I think you and your FH will be much happier. Good luck & Hugs!
Thanks ladies. I just need
Thanks ladies. I just need reassurance that I am not being ignorant or selfish. Sometimes I forget that this is MY life too. I deserve one day with him alone. Maybe he should just say well - fine if I am going to have them Friday after school until Sunday before I go to work EVERY weekend then I guess I am going to really have my child support reduced? That would scare them both!