It states that he has to pay his portion which is 52% within 7 days of recieving the bill. He knows that it's already been paid in full so his potion would go to me to cover the cost of what I already paid.

I also have a text from me to him letting him know that the bill was already paid and that he needs to issue another check to me to cover his half and his response of I will only write a check to the dentist. So...if he's aware of the fact that the dentist won't accept his payment because it's already been paid and he hasn't paid his 52% by Tuesday, I'm pretty sure that would put him in contempt of CO.

And I really don't care if he doesn't want to write a check to me. I don't want to cover his half of the cost up front and then trust that he will pay his portion but I do what needs to be done. Our BD needed dental work. The balance has to be paid up front before you leave the dentist office. If he doesn't want to write a check to me will tough titty. It's not about what he wants. It's to cover the cost that he owes for hour BD's dental work. It's not like I'm pocketing the money since I already paid it.

Oh and had I told him how much the estimate was or showed him a copy of it then he still wouldn't have paid his portion up front. He would have told me that I would have to show him the bill for it. Which means that I would of had to pay it first because it has to be paid after the appointment is over per the dentist office.

I paid with a credit card and I can't get down to the dentist without having to leave work early which I won't get paid for because I have no vacation time left and I have no idea if they would even refund the amount back to the credit card and then accept the check for the amount refunded.

Willow,

I get what you're saying but after all of the crap this guy has put me through, and by crap I mean things like taking off with our BD and not calling me to let me know where he's at or if she's even alive for days (essentially kidnapping). We had the forest service out looking for her and the police almost put out an Amber alert for her, I am not willing to do anything for him anymore. I mean nodda. If he thinks that he can just be an a$$ and write me a check that he knows that I can't cash just to be a jerk then that's fine. Even if I were to present him with what the cost would be before he still wouldn't pay in advance. He would want to see the bill first which has to be paid up front. He wouldn't show up at the appointment if he had notice. Sh!t. The man can't even show up for his requested supovised visitation 97% of the time. This is just how he is. He's upset that I left him and I moved on. So this is his way of punishing me. Making everytime I have to deal with him a nightmare.

We'll see what i judge says. He's already aware that the bill has been paid and the dentist office won't accept it because there is no balance. If he doesn't write another check for the balance to me then his portion hasn't been paid. He has till Tuesday.

He drives long haul. Three weeks on one week off. He wouldn't give me his schedule so that he could show up so I wouldn't know when to schedule the appointments and he wouldn't come anyways. You have to understand that all he wants to do is eff me over when ever he can and try to get away with what ever sh!t he can. Hence this blog. He is not like a normal person. He is just like the scandalas BMs on this site that do whatever then can eff their exs over or try to make the new GF or Wife's life as crazy as they can.

The only reason why he paid so fast is because he knew he was effing me over. To write a check to the dentist when there is no balance due is like your ex not paying at all. And him refusing to write another check to me is basically like your ex being an a$$ and not paying at all. (Wow. Look at the similarities there.) I'm still out the portion that he is supposed to pay because I can't cash the check.

And he is in contempt because he hasn't paid his portion. Writing a check that I can't cash is not paying for the dental work. Hence contempt of the CO.

Okay. I see your point with the calling the dentist but I am sick of his BS. If it were a BM making one of your DH's life hell whenever they can and trying to screw him over would you be wanting your DH to take unpaid time off of work to go down to the dentist office to see if they can refund her portion and then give them the check? I highly doubt it. You guys would be on here bitching about the BM and all of her BS that she's pulling and probably pissed that your DH did all of that instead of standing up for himself.

I am sick of it with him. All he has to do is write a check for his portion that I already paid. It's that simple. Writing me a check that I can't cash after I paid for all of the dental work up front is his way of saying eff you. Now what are you going to do? If he wants to be an a$$ that's fine. He can explain to a judge why he won't cover his portion. Plain and simple. I am not playing his stupid games anymore. I'm sorry that he's still p!issed about me leaving him. I'm sorry that he hates that I moved on but he needs to grow up and get over it. He's 32 freaking years old for crying out loud.