thank goodness for this site so that I can have an outlet for this everyday shit. the newest alligation from the BM includes that I choked ss13 three years ago and that I have kicked BF and ss16 out of the house this past weekend, because I was pissed off about the recent agreement that was a healthy and safe alternative for our ss13 instead of visiting in our home. (Jeeze the way that this letter from BM's attorney sounds like the 4 kids that live here are in danger)

I had to write our attorney a reasponse to her most recent alligations and found myself going off on a venting session, thank goodness I took my time and hung on to the email before sending it a few minutes ago. I had let loose telling him how we spent the whole weekend together and ended up having sex as married couples do even the position. Telling every event from moment to moment about what each of the kids were doing where they went. etc.

This is not the first time that Bm has made such an outlandish alligation, it has been addressed by the court ordered therapist that all of this needs to stop. that none of this harrassment has or is helping the boys or the rest of the children in the home. BM's response was that she was not responsible for the other kids in the house and went on claiming that they were rude, used drugs and were mean to the boys anyhow. She missed the whole point of the therapists letter. (by the way my kids aren't, grade reports have positive comments about behaviors, 13 year old babysits for teachers and law enforcement in town, oldest one's graduated with honors and now are on the dean's list - but BM cares less about that)

Bm refused to have ss come down to his grandparents for the week so BF has lost out on another whole week of visitation between himself and his son.

Still have not heard back on the Hippa reports or the confidential police reports that Bm is passing around. I will end up having to deal with it with a law suit. More money, you would think that I was producing the stuff in my basement the way I'm forced to spend it.

My whole situation has really opened my eyes up to how some parents give up on seeing their kids, they can't afford the finacial pressure and the emotional burden is devistating. Hubby was having chest pains this weekend after Bm pulling her shit - because here we are spinning our wheels and nothing is getting better or changing.
(I know that there are those dead beats but you really have to wonder if hubby and I are professionals with good reputations and children living in our home are having these problems, you know that there are many others)