So I'm sitting here at work waiting for any word on how SD12 is doing at her volleyball tournament. They have been there 5 hours and not one text with an update. So I text DH and ask him how things are going. 10 min later... waiting for a response. 20 min... nothing yet. 30 min later... still nothing. He keeps that damn thing glued to his hand, so now I'm getting pissed. BM wasn't at the volleyball tournament last weekend for part of the time but she kept texting him asking for updates, like constantly texting him. And of course he would respond immediately, like ignoring his daughter playing so he can keep BM updated. I had to tell him, SD is serving put the phone down! Most of the time he responds to her immediately. Me? Nope, he just gets around to answering me whenever he feels like it. My feelings are hurt. So then I started thinking, he responds to her right away out of fear. She has him so conditioned to her rants/raves, withholding of visitation, PASing, etc that he is like Pavlov's dogs, she rings the bell and he jumps to her every request. I just hope and pray that I don't become one of those wives that bulldozes her husband using tantrums, fear and ultimatums. But at the same time, I don't like being ignored either. He finally did respond to me after I sent an additional text, she won 2, lost 1.

This is a sensitive subject for me. There have been times he has overstepped what I thought to be appropriate discussions with his ex (Hey your favorite movie is on! How much are you getting back in taxes? Etc) And then there are times she texts him with personal problems, relationship problems, financial problem and stupid problems probably just to keep him at arms reach. And sometimes He tends to be a little too friendly and jokes around too much with her, like almost borderline flirting! He says he does it to keep her being friendly, because as long as he is on her good side she causes fewer problems. I see it as disrespecting me and our marriage, especially since this is the woman that emailed him the morning of our wedding to tell him that after 10 years she finally realizes that none of her boyfriends/fiances/girlfriend have worked out because they just weren't him and that now they will never have the family that God intended them to have with their daughter and her family told her to never give up on what she deserves (Liar, her own twin sister and her mother don't get along with her at all and told me to my face that I was the best thing that ever happened to DH and SD!). Oh yeah and all this while she was 9 months pregnant with another man's baby, whom the day before she had called "the man I love". I'm all for positive co-parenting, but seriously, there is a difference between getting along and communicating well and being so far up each other's a$$.