I can't help but to be in complete awe of the levels SO will go to avoid dealing with his own children and Thier issues. We came to an agreement in counseling he will worry about his and I will worry about mine. Which has been working out great for me especially since I'm helpless to do anything in regards to his children and it's a relief to not care.

He on the other has plenty of issues he should be focusing on, enough to keep him plenty busy and overwhelmed. But, no he blissfully ignores what goes on with his own children and remains focused on mine. 

Regular complaints are: my neice doesn't do yard work and all she does is come home to eat.  My son is always on his phone and he doesn't act his age. He yells at my son for coming into our room to talk to me and says kids don't belong in a parents bedroom. Ummm didn't your daughter sleep in your room until you moved in with me? Really???

My neice goes to college full time and is close to getting her Associates Degree, works 40 hours a week, helps run my son around, and cleans up after herself. My son goes to school everyday, tutoring 3x a week, wrestling 2x a week, has a 95 average this school year, does yard work, chores, his own laundry and basically anything else I tell him to do.  I'm not saying he is a ball of fire, but it gets done. I am proud he is doing so well in school especially since he is dyslexic.  So yeah I let him play on his switch and phone. Do I find it annoying sometimes that I have to tell him to put it down when he is doing something yes. But, seriously that is something I can live with.

Let's discuss OSD, she is 14 face timing 19 year old males, she has been experimenting with drugs and blacked out, she is completely disrespectful to all adults, she hits her mother, she has taken off from home, and she is a complete slob who will not lift a finger to even pick up her own dishes. Let alone even pick up her dirty clothes from the floor to put them in the hamper to be washed. She has lost all her friends because of her lies and drama. 

YSD 12 throws temper tantrums and screams at the top of her lungs whenever she is frustrated. She is currently maintaining a zero average in school and absolutely refuses to do any school work. She spends all day on her phone and only leaves her room to eat. She cannot maintain any friendships because she has poor social skills and is a bully. Her father cleans her room for her and does her laundry because it's easier than arguing with her to do it. I'm not sure if she even knows what the backyard looks like or if she could find her way there.

But, hey let's worry about my kids short comings right?