I stole this from Blender.
I stole the quote from Blender.
It’s not verbatim, but close.
How many of your DH’s are like this….
“My DH is a great man, husband, and step father. But he stinks as a bio parent.”
Why is this?! This sums up my DH in two sentences. And it seems like a lot of out DH’s are like this.
Do you think they would still be bad parents if they had stayed with BM?
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Hell yes! My SO sucked as a
Hell yes! My SO sucked as a parent while he was with BM. They BOTH suck(ed) :sick: STILL SUCK!
They are obviously part of the new parenting craze.... GIVE EVERYTHING- ASK NOTHING- EXPECT NOTHING- KISS A$$ whenever possible! AWESOME parenting skills! :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick: :sick:
"DH told me his kids were bad
"DH told me his kids were bad because BM didn't allow him to parent. I think this is what DH told himself to some degree because I encourage, offer to help, and for awhile demanded him to parent his kids and he still doesn't."
^^^^This^^^^
"I do know that DH is NOT a strong parent - he hates conflict and doesn't deal well with being the bad guy. All flaws."
^^^^This^^^^
"He seems uncomfortable with his own kids at times - unhappy almost, overwhelmed maybe?"
^^^^This^^^^
Blender - we have very
Blender - we have very similar situations!
We have 50/50 custody of skids (FSD16.5 & FSS13) - we have wed/thurs/fri week 1 and then wed/thurs/sat/sun week 2.
I think that since skids spend 50% of their time with BM, that FDH just "defaults" to her & that situation with regard to skids' education and upbringing. KWIM? Not sure if that makes sense or not.
FDH seems to have the attitude that BM is a good mother and will take care of the day-to-day of raising skids. BAD IDEA!!! Especially since BM: is a high school dropout, was preggo at 17, never held a full-time job in her LIFE, was always dependent on my FDH during their marriage and just now (in her 40's) started attending a vocational school to obtain some kind of bubblegum machine nursing certificate - she is the FARTHEST person to be the one directing skids' education,etc...!! IMHO!
***Milomom shaking head***
FDH either doesn't realize or simply doesn't CARE that skids are on the train to LOSERVILLE (JUST.LIKE.THEIR.MOTHER) and FAST!!
FDH & I truly have an AMAZING, WONDERFUL relationship - this is the only topic (DH's partial "non-parenting" when it comes to skids' education and not making them do chores, etc...) that we disagree on.