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Willow2010's picture

Ugh...I do not understand how DH can just let stupid crap go!

DH "lent" SS money. SS said he was short because he paid off a credit card and it left him with NO money.

A few days later SS got a warranty card in the mail from an expensive game system. Per the warranty, it was bought the day before SS called for money.

ME: Did you see that warranty card for SS's new game?
DH: Yes.
ME: Did you notice that he bought that a day before he called here for money?
DH: Yes?
ME: And?
DH: And what?
ME: Nothing. (Shaking my head.)

Really!! My kids would never ask to borrow money, but if they did and I found out that they lied about why they needed money...I would be livid. DH, as usual, is just going to ignore it and forget it. Makes me sick.

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Willow2010's picture

Not that I am aware of. But I doubt he will. Thankfully, DH and I don't have finances combined!

SS has always been a liar about everything. But this is worse. This time it almost feels like he stole from his dad due to the way he got the money.

Unfreakingreal's picture

Your DH sounds like mine. He will stay really quiet and silent when he catches his kids in a lie. I know that those things bother him so I try not to fan the flames. On the contrary, I'll say things like, "Damn, I'm sorry babe, that really sucks. Kids are such assholes." He'll completely agree. I think our husbands know a lot more than they are willing to admit. I have found that the more I let my DH be, the more he sees things on his own. I wouldn't be surprised Willow if your DH is just taking notes and waiting for the next time SS calls asking for money. Maybe, just maybe, next time, he won't buy it.

StepX2's picture

Agree with Unfreakingreal. Most men don't want to hear from others the negative about THEIR kid.
One of the best things I learned from this site was to do exactly was UFR says. Sit back and let things sink in for DH while offering sympathy (careful here that it doesn't come off as an insult to kid though) and let the kids hang themselves.
When I used to point out the crappy things his adult kids did, DH would suddenly find fault in anyting my kids did.
Five years later and due to DH's kids showing him their true colors, there is NO contact with 2 of them and very minimal contact with the other two. Dh has a closer relationship with my kids as they have never USED him and there is mutual respect between DH and my kids.

Willow2010's picture

I am afraid this is just the start of the asking for money crap. UGH. The kid is in the military and is 21ish. Let him learn to budget his money. BM and DH have been trying to teach the boy to budget forever. He knows how, he just won't.