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Submitted by youngmama1b1g on Sat, 11/19/2011 - 7:26pm

My family is very organized, and my mom -while it seems a bit formal requests for me to send her a list of things we would like or need for Christmas. Including sizes for both my SS5 and BD2.

Now I've made the mistake of asking my dad and SM to purchase a stroller system when I was pregnant- not even thinking that they couldn't afford it. My dad told me they couldn't, but in the end purchased it anyways. Which I'm sure my SM was NOT too happy about. I really didn't understand it- as I am entirely too logical when it comes to gift giving.

This year, I want to make sure I don't offend, but we are actually in want of certain things (not highly priced).

So if I do send "a list", how should I write it?

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Submitted by sonja on Sat, 11/19/2011 - 9:33pm

Seriously? When I was preggo, I told my SM that I would like my dad to get the crib for us, and they(he) did. Why is that bad? I know that is how they work, I tell her and he pays for the stuff when she buys it. It requires no effort from him, and we end up with a gift that we like/want. Everyones happy.

She asked what my BS needed/wanted for xmas this year. I plan to tell her specifically when it gets closer.. nothing wrong with that in my mind.

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Submitted by NCMilGal on Sat, 11/19/2011 - 9:06pm

Can you do it this way??

"Dad and SM,

Well, it's Christmas time again! I find it so much easier to have a list of preferences - is there anything you would really like for Christmas?

If you haven't already purchased gifts for us, here are some things we really need, and would be thrilled to get.

(short list of reasonably-priced items here)

Of course, you don't HAVE to buy us anything - that's not the reason for the season.

We look forward to seeing you!

youngmama"

First thing you do is ask what they want - your intent is not to be gimme-gimme.
Secondly, you put a reasonable list.
Third, you let them know that this is NOT mandatory.
Finally, you show them they matter.

Be prepared for different gifts, and don't show disappointment - be appreciative for the thought that went into picking everything out.

I'm like you - I like lists. Actually, I'm at the point (late 30s) where I don't WANT any more STUFF. Cookies are good. Homemade jams or chutneys are good. Clothes and gadgets, not so much.

Good luck!

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Submitted by Totalybogus on Sat, 11/19/2011 - 10:12pm

This is something between you and your
On. Unless dad asks, you shouldn't even mention your wants