Just when I thought things were calming down and SD24 was growing up, the drama arrives again.

SD just turned 24. She is planning to move across the country next month to attend grad school that BM will be paying for. DH said he would give SD24 $1000 toward her security deposit for an apartment. He doesn't agree with her field of study or how she is going about this (she has loans from undergraduate study, and hasn't really thought through what she intends to live on, and will rack up even more loans this time) so he has no intentions of paying for any of this degree. He was forced to pay for her last one with no input...thanks NJ.

So last night DH was texting constantly after he got home from work. Finally he tells me there's drama all over again. SD24 texted him that she doesn't know what to do because BM refuses to cosign for an apartment. She didn't immediately ask for help, but she was clearly expecting Daddy to make it all better. DH said he will give her $1000 for her security deposit as agreed, but that's it. He wrote that she's an adult and needs to figure things out for herself. She went off the deep end and accused him of not liking her boyfriend who is moving out there with her, and said she's going to kill herself if this doesn't work out. DH then gets a text from BM asking him to call her regarding the suicide threat, and DH wrote back a brilliant response. He wrote something along the lines of he will not call her, and that SD24 was acting completely immature and she is an entitled spoiled brat because of BM. He almost wrote the same thing to SD24 in response to her suicide threat. (She does not have depression, so it was obvious to us that it was an empty threat to try to get what she wants.) I told DH if SD24 continues with the threats, tell BM to call 911 and have her taken for emergency observation. Otherwise ignore it. DH didn't think it was worth saying that to BM. DH also told SD24 that he was completely self-sufficient at her age, he paid his own way through graduate school, and he would have been embarrassed to even consider asking his parents to help him. He called her an immature brat for threatening suicide just because she hit a road bump with her plans. Being an adult consists of figuring things out because there will be problems. SD24 then tried to accuse DH of having it easy because he has rich parents. THAT was clearly BM feeding SD24 false information. DH's parents have money, but only since they inherited from their own parents. They are very frugal with their money (ie refuse to pay for premium gasoline or cable internet in their house!) and DH is too proud to take anything from them even if they were to offer.

At one point, I told DH that SD24 must not know him very well if she went to him expecting to be coddled and told everything would be ok. DH quickly agreed with me. This made me laugh inside because SD24 loves to tell me that she's known DH longer than I have, and therefore knows him better than I do. Uh, sure....

I was also completely on my own long before I turned 24, so this is all very amusing to me...

We're having our youngest baptized on Sunday, and SD24 is supposed to join us for it. I wonder if she'll calm down enough by then. Hmm...