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It varies so much from person
It varies so much from person to person and even animal to animal. I have 3 dogs and the two with shorter hair bother my allergies more than the longer haired one. I've never seen anything that says this is a medical fact but my sister's ex husband was the same way but a little more extreme. Living with them is fine overall but if I really scratch the shorter hair dogs and get a lot of hair and dander on my or if they scratch me I start getting hives in the area. Allergy medication helps and symptoms are usually gone pretty quickly.
With cats I react more like seasonal allergies itchy eyes, runny nose, etc after being in a house with them for more than an hour or two. I'd say symptoms can last close to 24 hours.
My son is highly allergic to cats
he gets a contact rashand instant itchying minutes into a cat rubbing against him or sitting or carpets/sofas that cats have layed on..
there are times his eyes go puffy and red and runny nose... we recently re-homed our 3 kitties and that first week it seemed his allergies got worse. My sons contact allergies were getting more intense but once you are rid of the pets, there needs to be dialy vacuuming and mopping, washing rugs or sofas cats had slept on to properly clear the house
one bedroom in our house remained locked and cat free fot during the day or my son would get so itchy and really bad red crusty rash from the cats. If inlaws came over i physically locked that room down because they would leaveit open and we’d have cat dander going in. I still vacuumed and mopped that cat free room daily
Small caution about pet
Small caution about pet allergies: you may not be allergic to your pet, but allergic to something in the pet's environment. I am not allergic to cats or dogs, but I am allergic to certain pollens. I end up with a red rash or welts on my skin from certain pollens. If my cat or dog is outside and then carries this on their coats and it transfers to my skin: bingo, I have a rash and sometimes itchy sinuses.
So for the cat I don't plant anything in my own garden to cause a rash and I prefer to walk my dog along the beach areas. Spring time I am particularly wary. Also hair brushing for both happens regularly.
Now to your questions. People react differently to the same allergens, but it is typically respiratory or skin breakouts with pet allergies. Not sure I came across people who are eating their pets (for symptoms like stomach pain or vomiting)... So its something you breathed in or settled on your skin. Symptoms of allergies: sneezing, runny rose or eyes, post-nasal drip, itching or swelling of the mouth / roof of the mouth, irritated sinuses, wheezing, coughing, shortness of breath, facial pain or congestion, rash, welts, itchy skin... Any breathing problems are serious and you may need to see a doctor.
Medication? Don't take anything without speaking to your doctor - especially if you are on any medication already. My own symptoms will be a skin rash and/or the feeling that I need to scratch the inside of my mouth and nose. I normally self-medicate with Claratyn and the symptoms are gone within 3 hours. (I will wash off the area with the rash too because it is most likely their is some kind of pollen on my skin, even if I can not see it.)
If it is the pet, you can reduce the allergen (dander, hair, saliva) with regular vaccuuming, cleaning and possibly bathing your pet on a regular schedule okayed by your vet. Hypo-allergenic pets? Not sure that this is anything but a pet shedding less. There is no "allergy proof" cat or dog.
Medication?
Medication?
I'd just like to add that if you're on allergy medication you can't get tested for specific allergens ...
Semi-Correct.Most allergy
Semi-Correct.
Most allergy testing requires you stop (certain) medication around 5 days to a week before an allergy test as it can interfere with a test result. Being on medication during your test can invalidate or skew your test results. Depends on the medication too. You can stop an anti-histamine (allergy medication), but you may not be able to stop taking blood pressure medication. However, my primary point is that It was important not to just self-medicate with allergy medication as it can interfere with anything else you are on.
You are normally tested for allergens before you are put on any medication to confirm what the allergen is- and told to avoid the allergen. If you can't avoid an environmental allergen (such as pollen, unless you want to turn off flowers in the spring), then you may be able to medicate the symptoms.
Thanks for the information
Thanks for the information
I was just speaking from my own experience. Our GP put one of my daughters on Aerius (Clarinex) because she seemed to have a nigh all-year-round allergy. When we later took her to see DH's allergist to find out the main causes so we could try to eliminate them from her environment, he simply refused to test her because of the meds.
For the end of the story, her "allergies" stopped when we found out she had Celiac disease and eliminated gluten from her diet. Apparently runny noses, etc. are often a sign you have Celiac.
I went to an allergist
I went to an allergist recently and while I wasn't on meds at the time, they advise that if people are, they stop them for 3 days. Your allergist seems unusually strict, no one can ever be tested for allergies if they've taken meds? Not even if they stop them?
OP, as the others said, allergy symptoms can be variable. I have a dust mite allergy and my only symptom is post-nasal drip and throat clearing. I was skin tested and dust mites are the only one. DH says he's allergic to cats and he gets itchy eyes - I think he just doesn't want me to insist on getting a cat.
Being strict is not his only
Being strict is not his only "feature" ... he isn't the most user-friendly doctor I have ever known but he is among the most competent. He may have been having a bad day that day
I don’t have a rash
or itchy/red eyes. My main problem is I seem to keep getting cold like symptoms coughing, post nasel drip. Stuffiness. These issues last for like two or three weeks then go away but come back anywheres from a week or a month later. Would Allergies come and go on their own if the pets were still in the home? Also ive had pets all my life without a problem. Could Allergies just start out of the blue? I’m out of work so don’t have insurance right now so Allergy testing is not an option right now.
I just replied above - my
I just replied above - my only allergy symptom is post-nasal drip and some congestion and I've been skin tested. Allergies can develop at any time of your life and they are often variable. I used to have a lot of different allergies (was skin tested prior - about 25 years ago) and now it's only dust mites.
Try Zyrtec (cetirizine) and see if it helps. I also use Flonase (the generic version).
I woke up at age 30 with year
I woke up at age 30 with year long allergies. Super fun. Most of my symptoms are like yours stuffed up nose; itchy eyes, scratchy throat.
I have been able to manage them with OTC meds and haven't been tested yet.
I am highly allergic to cats
One time I stayed at my sisters who has cats. I drove 5 hours home, and had dinner with a friend who is a Dr. Friend told me I was on verge of needing to go to ER. Breathing heavily. I use OTC, not perfect. Not willing to get shocks.
Wow thanks so many people seem way worse
Then me. I NEVER get a rash and my cat can Literally brush up against my face with no red itchy eye issues. I do seem tired/run down more but that could be from stress. My main thing is the Congested cough, post nasal drip and stuffy head that keeps coming back.