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Additional weekends .. denied?

SMof2Girls's picture

DH gets 4 additional holiday weekends per the agreement. BM withheld the last one and refused to let the skids come to our house. Even kept them out of school so DH couldn't go pick them up directly.

DH sent an email about 3 weeks ago notifying her of his first 2 holiday weekends in 2014. One around Jan 20, the other around Feb 20 (MLK day and President's day).

BM just replied to his email (3 weeks later), that the girls have previously scheduled activities and she's not approving these weekends.

Nothing in the CO states he needs her approval. Luckily, these 2 holidays are Mondays, so unless she plans to withhold them from regular custody time on the weekend (which would bury her in contempt charges), she can't really withhold.

I expect complete meltdown. DH replied simply stating the agreement clause, noting it does not require her permission, and that he will plan to execute visitation as previously communicated (cc attorney).

Just waiting for it all to implode. He's got her on radio silence the rest of the weekend. She's clearly in one of her moods ...

SMof2Girls's picture

DH has been trying to have the custody order modified since last March .. almost a full year now. They discuss, go back and forth on wording, and once his attorney has finalized everything, she changes her mind.

She filed for custody modification with the courts directly in October, after they mediated for 4 hours to reach a new agreement.

Now they're just waiting for a court date. They have another 4 hours of court-ordered mediation coming before a judge will see them. So I agree .. CO needs to change. It just won't happen quickly Sad