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Submitted by flmomma08 on Tue, 05/21/2019 - 2:31pm

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We have SD11 (who currently is living with her BM by her own choice), BD3, and I am expecting. Both our bios were planned but I am starting to get so anxious about having this baby. I don't remember feeling this way when I was pregnant with my BD.

Maybe I feel it more now because of all the recent SD drama, I don't know. I am worrying about everything, from how BD is going to feel to who is going to watch her while I am in the hospital to something going wrong during delivery, and everything in between. It's just constant.

Has anyone else experienced these feelings?

 

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Submitted by Annoyed1 on Tue, 05/21/2019 - 4:00pm

I'm no longer a step mother, but I stay on this forum to offer my insight as I was living in step hell for 12 years and somehow managed to get out. lol. Not saying all situations are bad, but mine was. I just wanted to say that what you're feeling is completely normal. I'm currently pregnant with my second and am experiencing the exact same feelings that you are (minus the step kid). I think we have the added anxiety this time around because we have our other child to worry about, which we didn't have the first time around. Just take deep breaths and try to plan everything you can ahead of time. I'm sure you will figure it all out. Don't stress out. It's not good for you or the baby. WIshing you all the best. 

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Submitted by flmomma08 on Wed, 05/22/2019 - 9:52am

Thank you so much for replying and congrats on getting out lol!

You're right, most of my anxiety is about my BD in some way and I didn't have another child last time so it was much different!

I will try to relax as best as I can. Thanks again Smile

 

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Submitted by Notup4it on Tue, 05/21/2019 - 4:48pm

Yes I am feeling it too this time, and this is also my second. I think when it is a first baby you live in the abstract while pregnant- everything is new and exciting, you are nervous but you don’t know really what to expect and you have worries but are really sort of clueless.  With a second you are sort of in this weird “land” between it being more concrete (because you have experience and have a vague idea of how it can be like) but still really abstract (because you don’t really know how things will be similar or different and now there are more pieces that come into play). 

I have found this time to be more emotional... it makes me think of how things were with DD when she was a baby a lot.   I worry how my daughter will be, and how everything will come together, I wonder how I will feel and will be this time.  I’m also more scared of something going wrong during delivery too, or along the way.... which can get me pretty worked up (even though I had a pretty straight forward labour with DD). It also seems *weird* to me to have a baby that isn’t DD.  Like already this one isn’t nearly as active as DD was and then I feel strange because she is what I have experienced.  I’m sure it will be TOTALLY different when they come out- it is just for now while it is all still abstract that it seems emotional and stressful and strange.

I totally can relate, and feel free to message me anytime. 

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Submitted by flmomma08 on Wed, 05/22/2019 - 9:54am

This is very true!

I didn't worry about my delivery with BD at all, and I didn't have complications so there is really no reason for me to worry this time but I can't help but think of everything that can go wrong and BD being left without me. I know it's morbid ugh I am trying to stop.

I'm sure everything will be fine once baby is here but man this second go around is so different and so much more stressful!

Best of luck to you since you are in the same boat! When are you due?

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Submitted by Notup4it on Wed, 05/22/2019 - 12:51pm

 I know I was nervous about delivery with DD too- but more because I didn’t know what to expect and I guess in the back of my mind I was able to convince myself that labour wouldn’t “really” happen.... Lol.  I certainly didn’t have quite as many morbid thoughts as I do this time. Ugh.  It is also hard to believe that you will go through all of it again.  It scares me, but I have read many times that it is actually very normal to feel like this with subsequent pregnancies- there are even ladies on #4, 5 or 6 and they get these exact same thoughts and fears.  My friend who is seriously a L&D champ (always has these super short, easy, drug free labour’s) had to go for a ton of counselling for it while pregnant with baby #3!! 

I’m due November 27, how about you?

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Submitted by flmomma08 on Wed, 05/22/2019 - 1:06pm

Its definitely a weird feeling knowing I will be going through all that again .. not only the labor but the whole newborn stage! I'm glad these are normal feelings though.

I am due Nov 2!

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Submitted by AvaAllan15a on Sat, 08/01/2020 - 6:39am

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