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My SD13 controls her father to the point that it makes me literally ill to watch. It is absolutely ridiculous...this article describes her to a tee.

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/characteristics-of-a-controlling-personal...

To be blunt, I think you can

To be blunt, I think you can blame her all you want, but he lets her. He's allowing it to happen. HE is the one who needs to see that it's damaging her long term.

I agree with Anon. You're

I agree with Anon. You're blaming the wrong person. Your DH is the adult and he's allow his 13 year old kid to call the shots.

The problem isn't the kid, it's the adult.

I agree that the father is allowing/enabling her atrocious behavior by not putting a stop to it BUT I also think that she is also taking full advantage of him being a coward who can't/won't properly parent/discipline his kid. just my take/op on it.

Oh I totally agree that a lot

Oh I totally agree that a lot of it is DH's fault but it takes a particular personality to take advantage of the situation (and this situation is extreme) and this is what I am addressing and trying to better understand. Not everyone who encounters a weak person is going to take advantage of them. JMO

Again...I am not saying that

Again...I am not saying that this is not DH fault in part. DH has put his foot down...she lays on the guilt trip or annoys him to the point that to keep his sanity he gives in...I think this is one of those situations that you have to be in his and my shoes to understand. Unless you see first hand what goes on then you could not understand and all points taken.