So FDH hasn't seen HER grandfather or father (not sure who it is actually) since before they got divorced- 7 years ago. He is now dying and receiving hospice care ( I'm not being rude but they've been counting him dead for 2 years now) seems like he really is dying this time ? Anyway, BM called FDH and told him he can go say good bye to him if he wants- FDH said he would...............and expected me to go with him.

:?

I said it seems kinda weird to me you have had NO contact with him and now he's on his death bed you are gonna go to his EX MIL's house to say good bye- I said You do what you feel you need to do because when he is gone he's gone and I don't want you to feel guilty and have regrets HOWEVER I will NOT be going with you. I have never met him before, I do NOT want to be in BM's mothers home, I would feel extremely awkward and thats not a situation I'm putting myself in but if you want to go- do it.

He won't go bc I'm not going with him..........He wants to use me as a buffer bc it's always awkward around BM and her family and he won't admit it!!! I told him that he can't put that on me and it's his choice.............I know he's gonna regret it but I think its kinda bullshit after all these years........

What do you think?

PAS'ing

Since SD16 isn't suicidal at the moment, FDH hasn't been going to all of her therapy appt's since he's been really busy at work and BM makes the appt's on HER days off in the middle of the work day- FDH explained that he wants to go therapy alone with SD16 and eventually bring me in and there's no reason him and BM need to be with SD16 together in therapy. They are not a family and can work on their issues with SD16 seperate. SD16 goes back and tells BM that I may go to her therapy one day at FDH's request. She call's FDH and rips him a new one that Thats HER daughter and she WILL be at EVERY therapy appt from here on out.....

Works out bc I didn't want to go anyway, SD16 doesn't want me there it's just FDH's way of trying to make things better which I respect but way to encourage positive relationships in your daughter life BM. FDH won't come to terms with the fact that until sd16 accepts me there will be no relationship...............