bm finally called
ya after weeks. She hasnt seen SD8 in weeks or talked to her. SHe is supposed to have her EOW . well this would not be her weekend.......but DH took her over to her house........WTF. I was working and its not even her weekend......so he brings sd8 home just as i get home from work. SO basically i got no friggin break. BM looks like good guy and im babysitting. WTF.........oh ya im talkin to dh about this. If she wants to be a mom again, she can do it on her weekends and give me a frigin break. MAN im pissed. I am so fed up today. I barely get a day off in two weeks and all i do is work at home or at work. Now she walks back into the picture and wants to be a mom AT HER CONVENIENCE. And im sure sd will have all kinds of wonderful things to say about the POS.
control issues
and instability does not make her ready to be a parent again.
I know some people who had a situation like that and they ended up having to get court orders for visitiation and follow them to the T.
Everytime a visit was missed, they recorded it because they knew they would end up back in court. After a decade or so when the bio mom announced she wanted to take the kids and they went to court, all these records were produced and the bio mom did not win custody.
You cannot be a parent only when it suits you, maybe you should start keeping a log too in the event you end up in court.