BM why oh why do u think DH would ever want you back?
So I dropped SS off tonight so DH could help DD with her homework. BM was on the phone when I got there and somehow I got trapped...for an hour and a half at her house. She loves to talk so we always get stuck but never for this long. Anyway, during all of her talking ab her boyfriend, his wife, his kid, her kids, etc. she threw in "If you and DH ever broke up, I'm sorry but there is no way I would take him back. Beyond his control problems and the other issues, I wouldn't want to deal with his mother for the rest of my life". Seriously? DH and I aren't getting divorced and clearly he hates you. DH told me before when they were together (never married) she used to tell him about how all of her ex's wanted her back and she could have any of them with a phone call. He is assuming that is what she tells her now boyfriend about him lol. I don't think even if another galaxy far far away DH would ever want to be with her again. I swear some BM's are so full of themselves. We've been married for 2 years, have a child together...I really think the last thing on his mind is YOU
I wish I knew truely like you
I wish I knew truely like you do that my partner wouldn't go back to his ex. We met one night out and clicked really well. We were together for three months before he went back to his ex. I knew it was because of his daughter because his ex refused him to be allowed to see her and moved 3.5 hours away.
When he broke up with me all he did was tell me how amazing I was and us together but that he needed to be there for his daughter. Well 5 months later he came back to me and (long story short) we got back together.
He swears black and blue that he would never go back - he simply needed to realise that he couldn't put up with all of it, not even for his daughters sake. They now have a parenting plan in place so he sees her on a regular basis. It's been 9 months and he has never once faultered with me again. He is always there for me when I get insecure about him going to collect SD from BM. They don't talk unless they have to. But it's really difficult because she has tried to get him back a few times and I know she would jump straight back in given the opportunity (and he knows that as well).
When I think about it logically I know he would be silly to go back and I doubt that he would.
But how do you ever know for sure? Or change your thought pattern so that you don't get self conscious?
DH has told me before that he
DH has told me before that he was happier with BM than me. but on the other hand he has said that he never really loved her. She left him so the decision wasn't his. He says he wanted her to leave but didn't want to be the reason the relationship failed so he waited for her to do it. She has no respect for him and I don't believe she ever really loved him either. They were together for a very short time before she became pregnant. My assurance in them NOT getting back together is I know he dislikes her for hte things she has done and said and I KNOW BM would never want to get back with him. She has shown jealous actions but nothing major. He tells me often of why they split and that it was a really unhealthy environment in her eyes that she would never want to subject her kids to again. Not that she feels he is a bad father, just a bad partner.
Our BM got pregnant
Our BM got pregnant deliberately at 17years old. She is now 20 and he is 24. They were together all of 6 weeks before and broke up about 5 times in the 3 years they were together.
He said he never actually loved he and was just staying for the kid. He has never felt about anyone the way he feels about me and occasionally comments on how amazing it is to feel so much for someone. That he never knew he could feel this way etc. He has moved in with me and we went overseas together. We are talking about moving away together and he is amazingly committed.
It's silly of me to get self conscious but I do.... perhaps because we haven't been together (or moreso they haven't been over for a great deal of time).
You know how you feel a little bit more secure in things that you have been in for a while...
I don't understand how your DH said that he was happier with her but never loved her?? It must have been a bit hurtful when he said that.