OMG how bizarre. I would pack up the special blankets that you have gotten/sewed for them and put them away in permanent storage, or give them to someone who you know will appreciate them. Don't say anything about it. Let them use their blankets from their mom's house. Let them forget one weekend and not have any blankets to use. }:) When they ask where they are tell them that since they weren't using them you gave them to someone who needed them and would use them.

Wow, what a slap in the face for you. Crazy. I wouldn't do jack shit for them anymore!

This has happened to us. BM sends them over with pillows and blankets from their beds at home. BM smokes in her house, the skids room reeked of smoke. One night and it was too much. I washed them all in the morning. BM texts DH after that weekend and complained that the skids wanted to have the smell of her and her home with them when they came to our house. DH told her to keep the pillows and blankets that smell like an ashtray at her home from now on. Skids have all they need at our home. She got pissy and tried to send them with them the next visit. DH watched them come out with their stuff and told the skids to bring it back inside. BM got pissy at DH in front of the skids. He told it like it was....NO, we do not want our house smelling like your ashtrays. She tried to get the skids all worked up and finally DH said enough....Get in the car or stay with your mother. Skids dropped the stuff on the front porch and ran to the car. LOLOL Hasn't happened again. }:)

Thats it tell them next time they come over with their bedding from home.
You- sk go to your rooms and get those comforters that are on your beds and bring them to the living. And put the blankets that you brought from home and put them on your beds.

lets say they did what you said. They come back to the living room with the ones that you gave them.

You- sk because you feel more comfortable with your blankets from home we are going to the shelter and donate these blankets that ya'll don't want to use.

Don't say anything about the time you spent on the comfort or what it meant to you to make it. They probably told their BM how much they like those things and what their doing is because of BM is getting back at you for being nice to her kids.

I would stick to the fact that if the don't want to use what you've gave them that someone else would love too. And it is the right thing to do by sharing their good fortune.

If they beg off and want to keep what you gave them tell them not to bring their blankets from home. Tell them that if for any reason BM is making you bring the blanket with you and thats not your choice just bring them and put them in the corner of your room till time to take them home that BM doesn't have to know you didn't sleep on them. Tell them that you will not provide stuff for them if their not going to use it. But that it makes you happy to give them things they like and that just maybe you should keep that to your selves.

That may not be the right approach but thats what I'd do. I would start trying to find a way to turn the manipulation back to BM. So that in that sly way the kids could see what BM was doing

As a young girl my mother told me no to everything I asked to do. While my sisters got to do what ever they wanted. Finally my older sister clued me in that if you get mom to think it was her idea then she would say yes. From then on I usually got to do what I asked.

You just have to out smart them and not get cought. LOL

How frustrating for you. I don't know what you can DO about it beyond ban them from bringing bedding to your house, but you have to have DH's support there. We bought SD brand new bedding when she decided to change her room theme. Sheets, comforter, pillows, even painted her furniture (dresser and desk) to match and reupholstered and painted a chair. ONE YEAR LATER, she decided she didn't like it anymore and wanted a NEW room theme. So she and DH were shopping for new bedding. I put my foot down, told him I would consider getting her new bedding at some point in the future, but not now when it is only a year old and she's just in my opinion trying to be a brat. He agreed, she didn't get new bedding, although he did repaint her room for her. So one day guess what shows up at our house! A comforter made by BM's mom in the color SD wanted her new room to be and in which DH painted. I let it go, we had much bigger battles to fight, but it did chap my butt just a bit that she still got what she wanted by going around me.

There's no doubt their BM made them self conscious about this. They've probably heard your name when BM reads them their bedtime stories. That's really nice of you to do by the way

Yep, BM heard that you made something so special for her daughter, and probably how much her daughter loved it, this is BM punishing you. Through her kids.

How do you deal with it? I like the asking them which they'd prefer to use and then telling them they will be donating the special bedding you get/made to a shelter where some other child will love and appreciate it.

See what they do.

"Please do not bring bedding from your mother's home. We do not want an insect infestation here."