Can I go to bed without my SD?
Last night we went to bed around 10:00. All of us even SD8 (this is a complaint for another time. One of those I have to go ‘I’m not the parent, I don’t need to worry about it.’). Hubby and I got a little frisky and had some…we’ll call it adult time. After wards, I mean immediately after, we hear SD8 sniffling. She gets up and goes to the bathroom then back to her bedroom and the sniffling continues. Hubby goes to see what is the matter. A few minutes later…literally under 2 minutes…here comes hubby with SD8 behind him. WTF!!! I’m in bed NAKED! This is so not a good thing in my book! What am I in that weird inappropriate nudist family?!?
This girl is 8 almost 9 and I’m sorry but she needs to sleep in her own bed more than in our room or her brothers (15) and without having her dad sleep with her all night. We had HUGE problems with this before and it had finally stopped.
So far this week she has slept in our room once, the first night. Then TV watching in our room the 2nd night until 2 am. I realize the TV watching shouldn’t be a big deal again its one of the ‘I’m not the parent, I don’t need to worry about it.’ Then last night happens and she is there again until 1. I’m irritated at the ‘she is going to come watch TV’ or her sleeping in our room but I’m completely floored at the fact that he knew I was naked!! I told him when he got in the bed and he asks if I want him to get my clothes. Well that would be nice IF I could have put them on! With our furniture arrangement the way it is she would have seen me. It’s not just that she isn’t my child but her age.
New mantra: Less than 10 years, less than 10 years.
You do need to worry about
You do need to worry about it, its your room. put a stop to this. She is not to be watching tv in your room or sleeping in there.
and you know what. he should be ashamed of himself brining her in there with you naked. How dumb was that of him. That's your room, you can be naked if you want.
In my opinion, the bedroom
In my opinion, the bedroom should be off limits for kids. No TV watching, no playing, and definitely NO sleeping!! Back when SD was 2 1/2 and 3 years old and I woke up in the morning naked on a few occasions, and saw her sleeping in the bed on the other side of DH, I brought that business to a halt. Now at almost 8 years old no way in hell is SD going to sleep in our room. It is inappropriate. Letting the child sleep in your room is teaching her that she doesn't have to grow up and be a big girl! Your bedroom should be your sanctuary. The only place in the house that is not run by skids! You should put your foot down. No more. TV watching in the living room only, and definitely no co-sleeping.
From my experience (my own
From my experience (my own and others on this blog/other blogs)
Allowing co-sleeping is the NUMBER ONE WAVING RED FLAG of GUILTY DADDY!!
Soon SD will be feigning "tummy aches" etc to keep in daddykin's bed and edge YOU out.
Here are some warning signs so you can put your foot down now; and if DH doesn't put HIS foot down, start thinking, sad to say, about DIVORCE as this is a trainwreck waiting to happen:
1. Does your man allow co-sleeping with his children? (aka the kiddies routinely jump into bed with him at night)
2. Does he have to lie down with them to get them to sleep?
3. Do the children seem somehow "stunted" socially? Do they have poor hygiene habis, eating habits, bedtime habits?
4. Does your man subscribe to the "one big happy family" model? (expects you to love his children as much as or more than him)
5. Does your man have the "inability" to say no to his children?
6. Do his children seem overly "hyperactive" to you?
7. Does your man say "just relax; you worry too much" or "Everything will be just fine" if you bring up a legitimate concern
8. Do the children seem "overly needy" demanding that dad spend 24/7 with them? Do they physically lay all over him and go bonkers when daddy steps out of their peripheral vision?
9. Are they unable to do age appropriate tasks or want dad to do things that could easily be done themselves?
10. Does dad seem overprotective of his children; unwilling to let them try things out on their own?
11. Has dad said things like "I don't want to make waves with the BM b/c it will affect the children" or "we'll take the high road" when faced with blatant BM stepping over boundaries.
I'm starting to think the
I'm starting to think the same. i wanna be a cougar!
My SO and I do not allow any
My SO and I do not allow any kids in our bed unless its the 2 year old and he is having a bad nightmare or is sick thats it and even then he gets put back in his bed when he is asleep. My SO used to sleep with the two year old before I moved in last year and I told him that it would not continue while I live here. Our room is supposed to be our sanctuary. I want peace and quiet. We have not had an issue with it. If you tell him that this is unfortunately an issue that needs to be addressed and asap.
Thanks for all of the
Thanks for all of the comments. This is a very touchy subject for dear old dad. We have talked (really argued) about this before and the behavior had stopped for about a year. Now it has picked up again. First with dad will you lay with me. Dad will you sleep with me. Now on to I can't sleep can I sleep in your room. Or I can't sleep can I watch TV in your room.
I want to say to him who is the adult her or you?
At least the sleeping in our room has moved from our bed to the floor since last year. He had her lay in the bed with us a few times last year and I was not a fan of it.
If its not because of bad dreams or being sick, suck it up and sleep in your own bed. And note for daddy if she's crying and you cant handle it then shut her door...oh wait that freaks her out...too bad so sad.
I'm done with it!
My mom did that! When I was
My mom did that! When I was four and I would get out of bed my mom just closed the door and wouldnt let me out. I screamed and cried but I eventually fell asleep and it got into a habit. I agree close the door and if it freaks her out it freaks her out. Does she have friends that she does sleep overs with or anything? She is getting to that age where independence should start showing.