Crying bm
Last week bm called right in the middle of dinner. Dh has only recently stopped jumping up and taking calls from bm so i was proud of him when he reasoned that he would call her back when we finished. She called again right away and as i rolled my eyes he put the phone on silent and we finished our dinner...ten minutes later. As we cleaned up i saw the phone lit up again and began to worry maybe something was wrong, but in a very unlike himself fashion dh said i'm sure it's fine, and if something is wrong she can leave a message. How very reasonable of him i thought! But bm began texting then, sending messages saying it's an emergency, and it's about sd6 call asap. So dh calls and guess what the emergency was?! Sd6 won't eat dinner...and they just couldn't figure out what to do! And when i say they i mean bm and her soon to be hubby, they're getting married this weekend. So dh told her to deal with it or put her to bed, either way there was nothing he could do about it. I was pleased, and suprised because in the not so distant past dh would have talked bm through this, staying on the phone for an hour or more if that's what it took. Later that night dh spilled the beans that this had been happening a lot lately, and bm was calling at all hours of the day and night with ridiculas requests or problems and expecting dh to solve them for her. I find this so odd especially seeing as how the blessed union is nearly upon us! This seems like a last ditch attempt by bm to do something, but i can't figure out what! Has anyone seen this before or do any of you have any ideas
Oh for crying out loud....I
Oh for crying out loud....I couldnt read the last few lines as I was absolutely disgusted in this mad womens behaviour....
If I was you I would have answered the phone and tell her once and for all that her demands are just inappropriate...you are in the middle of dinner and she is going to have to call back at another time....that she is DIVORCED...and that means you deal with things yourself when they arise.
Tell her you are both happy to help if really needed but in the mean time it is much better if she leans on her new husband and not yours!
She will get it after a while....
but nothing annoys me more than people taking phone calls during meal times....there is a time and place for talking on the phone, and whilst you are enjoying others company face to face...the person on the phone WAITS!
What is going on is that bm
What is going on is that bm figured out that dh is no longer jumping for her and she is trying to keep him doing so which is making her do this even more. It will get a lot better if your dh keeps making it known to bm that he is no longer jumping when she says. Bubble butt did the very same thing and it has stopped almost completely now.
yeah we had the same here for
yeah we had the same here for about 8 mths....skids were being told to ring for their father on behalf of the ludicrous Lesbian psycho bitch BM....
In fact I loved the way it disrupt our dinner and pissed me off so much, I started doing the dinner phone call to my ex husband and his dog!!! But only to talk to my 18 year old son who has just started living there....
you know what.....I know what a prick that ex husband is when its dinner time....dont like getting up the table until everyone else is there....so gorgous BS18 and me had a lovely time chatting ....talk about piss the dog off
Exactly what purple said!!
Exactly what purple said!! This is what our BM did. Called at all hours especially after I moved in. Once he stopped taking the calls she went nuts for a while with calls and texts but he kept the boundary and eventually she stopped. Still happens now and then like maybe once a month and he doesn't respond. I think she is just waiting for him to go back to the way he was!!
Yeah, likewise here Newstep.
Yeah, likewise here Newstep. It took a while for DH to realize what she was doing because his usual first response was to take the calls and deal with 'whatever' for the sake of the kids. He now ignores her calls and she's getting the message. Confrontation with these people never works soooooooo just resist...be steadfast and passively resist if need be but RESIST!
You know what? After almost 2
You know what? After almost 2 years of this aggravation, I recently got our phone number changed. It coincided with changing carriers to get a better rate, but I did have the option to keep the same phone number. So yeah, it's a minor inconvenience to inform various people/companies of the change. And yeah, BM probably still calls SO's cell phone. But the extra peace and quiet in our home is so worth it. She would literally call 8-10 times in a row. We rarely answered it, but the constant ringing was so irritating. And forget trying to have a conversation on the phone because call waiting would beep in constantly as she called over and over letting it ring and ring.
I should probably give the phone number to some third party BM can call in case of emergency, but I know how she is and she'll coerce it out of anyone. Between SO's cell phone and living just a couple houses away from BM, I'm not too worried about her not having the number.
When my dh started to back
When my dh started to back away from bm and not answer her calls all the time and letting it go to vm. Bm called me and told me that she had every right to call me when ever she wanted and called me little missy! I was furious! I told her in no uncertain terms that if she called me one more time I would file harassment. She then told me that it was all my fault that dh didn't know she had called b/c I hid it from him and refused to give him mess. I told her that first secretary and that it wasn't my fault that dh doesn't want to talk to her. I again told her tht I would file if she called me. Well you guess it she called and I filed (she left the best vm that the police and prosecution listened too)and she never called again however she did tell dh that the police told her that if purple calls her again I will be arrested. LOL What ever I NEVER EVER called her! I just laughed.
My point is that it may be very bad til she gets it that your dh will not put up that crap!
I am chuckling at purple
I am chuckling at purple here. Yep, I say what I mean and I mean what I say! I told BM to go right ahead and do her worst when she threatened me with all sorts of bullcrap. Once you give these sorts of people an inch they take a mile! The onus is really on DH to stop the crap, It got really bad too. Here's a curious point...anyone noticed that DH will tolerate crap right up until the point whereby we, wives and husbands, have had enough and call them on it?? It seems like that way here sometimes. Ladies and gentlemen, we have to move our threshhold...right?
Ripley you are so right dh
Ripley you are so right dh has done this may times over the phone when bm would complain about being a single mom and boo hooing about it. She quickly stops! lol ALWAYS pull this card on bm and they normally always stop!