DH better not say anything now
Don't know if any of you remember my last post about spending my points on the SSs xmas gifts and DH giving me crap that I thought a DSi XL and a DSi was good enough, outside some small stuff... well....
He just lost his job. DH better not say crap now as I will be paying for the entire household plus making sure his CS is paid until he finds work again. Looks like we ARE done with the SSs xmas gifts now!!!
F!! I am so stressed! We go get the kids in a couple of months for a couple of weeks. Don't know how much or if he will get Unemployment. I think im going to barf.
The other thing was I was really wanted to have a baby of my own finally. We were planning on getting pregnant and this happens. It was all I could think about. I'm so depressed now.
Someone tell me it's going to be ok...
WHAT he really thought your
WHAT he really thought your gift wasn't good enough??? Really, honey you need to sit him down and tell him in no uncertain terms that a gift is just that a GIFT and what ever you CHOSE to buy HIS son is more than plenty! Plus I would tell him that I'll just take it back and if you can't I'd give it someone that APPRECIATES the GIFT! Also if he wants HIS son to have anything else than HE can buy HIS son whatever the hell he wants but he better not ask me for the money especially with him not working!
Don't know what to tell you about going to get your ss but try to make the most of it or stay in the bathroom and pamper yourself. }:)
It really will be okay. But,
It really will be okay.
But, why pay his CS? Let it build up and he can catch up when he has a job. Why should BM not suffer along with you and DH in this economy?
Rather than CS have food delivered to BMs house for the kids.
Best regards,
You do NOT pay his cs!! It is
You do NOT pay his cs!! It is not YOUR problem.
No no no, here's what you do.
No no no, here's what you do. Sue2 is right. You need to have him apply for a reduction in CS due to his change in financial circumstances. Sounds counterproductive, but stop paying it until you get the reduction on paper. It will be retroactive to the date that he filed for it. In the meantime, save the appropriate amount of money out of his Unemployment. You have to look up your state's CSSD website, but it gives a guideline if you think you owe. It's something like 20% for one child, and a little more, maybe 26% for 2, 33% for 3...I don't know the exact percentage, but you can find it easily. You have him put that aside from each check, and then when you get the reduction amount, he should be safely covered.
Good luck.
And it really will be okay. MY DH was laid off for a few months. Fortunatly I make good money and it's not a concern. But after a few months of feeling bad for not paying his own way, he just got offered pretty much his dream job. It doesn't pay well, but who cares? It will be awesome for him and he hated his old job anyway!
Your honey will find something, don't worry.
Thank you all for your
Thank you all for your advice. Yes, as soon as we find out about UE then we will go for a reduction that is more proper. The BM will be furious and will call my DH all sorts of names. Not sure I am ready to go through this.
Ugh, money worries suck! It
Ugh, money worries suck! It will be ok though, just hang in there!
I understand about BM's reaction. We would get the same thing! My DH always tells her that she needs to get a job and support her own damn kids! After all, we have them 50/50, and pay half of all their extracurricular costs and school costs, etc. Why the hell should she still get money from us? So they can go on all their cruises? Sure wish we could do that!
Ok, sorry, that turned into a vent of my own lol... But hang in there, it will work out!