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Do you ever get the feeling that your SK is hiding something?

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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 11:32am

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I don't know why but I have a feeling that my SD15 is not the little angel that her family thinks she is. Reason being--she worships her friends and I have seen what her friends write on facebook (cussing, sexual stuff, fighting)but SD15 facebook is clean as a whistle (she never posts really she is just tagged in photos and post (hence how I see what her friends say) I just feel like there is more going on. She also shows to have no interest in boys when she is around us. I find that almost impossible to believe. She plays the Miss Goody Too Shoes so well it is too good to be true.
Do you guys think I'm just imagining things because I'm a bitch and always think the worst of her or do you see where I'm coming from :?

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 11:49am

I was just like your SD as a teen. All of my friends were pretty wild, but I wasn't. The main reason was because I knew I couldn't get away with the things that they could. My mom, aunts and stepdad knew every step we made. If I went to a friend’s house, mom would call the mom to make sure she was fine with me being there, thank her for allowing me to visit, and offer to send over food, drinks...

I had friends who smoked and tried to get me to do so as well. NOPE. My mom smelled smoke on me once when I was in the 9th grade (I had been standing with my friends while they smoked) and flipped out.

Guys were afraid to disrespect my sister and me because they knew my stepdad would kill them. All of my friends were having sex in high school. I was a virgin until freshmen year of college.

Yes, it's possible to hang out with "bad" kids and not take part in what they are doing. Believe me, I was not a goody two shoes. I just didn't want to disappoint my parents.

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Submitted by Ninji on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 11:57am

I was the same way. I hung out with the bad kids too.

I once had a girl ask me why I was so good all the time. I told her that my dad would kill me if I got into any trouble.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 12:11pm

SD15 actually got busted about Facebook a couple years ago before she realized that her family could see everything she posted. Bad language, vugarity and always trying to pick a fight were found...then all of a sudden, her facebook appeared to have stopped. I could be wrong though and after she got in trouble she quit doing it but I got the ol' gut feeling on this one Dirol

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Submitted by jojo68 on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 12:34pm

I think you are correct on that..I tried to search on twitter with no luck...I haven't tried instagram or snapchat.

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Submitted by Calypso1977 on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 1:15pm

i KNOW my SD14 is hiding stuff. its been proven in the past, and aided by her mother. She hid a boyfriend from us for THREE YEARS, encouraged to do so by her mother.

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Submitted by Cover1W on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 6:00pm

Yep, I know some things about SD11 that DP is oblivious of, and in denial about. He is slowly coming around to the idea that she may not be telling 100% of the truth to him...I'll wait for the shit to hit the fan one of these days.
She's a real ring-leader of her friends and the master of sending nasty emails.
I'm always on the lookout for her out in the e-world because I am smarter than her, in spite of what she thinks. Because I know. OH do I know....

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Submitted by Monchichi on Tue, 03/10/2015 - 4:21am

I think it all the time. As terrible as this may sound I think SS has some deep seated issues that have nothing to with being special needs and he is a train wreck waiting to happen that no one wants to see or help.

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Submitted by GhostWhoCooksDinner on Tue, 03/10/2015 - 12:46pm

Yup. SS16 was NOT the person everyone thought he was. He acted sweet and polite to our faces (me, DH, BS, our families). Meanwhile, behind everyone's backs, he was calling BM on a secret cell phone that he hid in his ceiling tiles, telling her about all the "abusive" things we were doing to him. She reported us to CPS and we haven't seen or heard from SS since that day. It's like we did everything for him, then he flipped us the bird and rode off into the sunset with his BFF BM.

The sneaky, two-faced ones are the worst. They're dangerous. I'd rather know exactly what I'm dealing with.

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Submitted by jojo68 on Wed, 03/11/2015 - 12:49pm

Oh yes--my Sd15 hardly speaks a word to me. She for the most part ignores my existence. It is very scary indeed to not know what they are thinking. The cold, uncomfortable feeling I get when she is around tells me "it aint good"

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 03/11/2015 - 5:07am

Your SD sounds like a very intelligent young lady. It is great that she is preserving her online character by not posting or participating in the usual toxic kid crap. These kids don't know it yet but eventually their online bullshit may very will cost them a great career, job, relationship, etc....

And I for one can't wait for their toxic crap to bite them in the ass but good.

My Skid is much like your SD. He keeps a very low online profile. My niece on the other hand... even though she is a very intelligent, beautiful, and for the most part well behaved young woman you would think she has been a boozing bar whore since she was ~15 based on her online persona, pics, and comments. Though she recently turned 21, has only had one boyfriend, and is still a virgin (she and my wife are extremely close) perception will sadly verly likely bite her in the ass pretty hard in the not too distant future after she graduates from college next year and attempts to launch her adult life.

My kid on the other hand really has nothing to hide but even if he did there would be no indication of it based on his social media/online digital life.