Does anyone know what happened to Gladiola?
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I keep wondering how she is with her plan to break away from her DH and her SD? She used to post on here all the time. I don't think she was culled because she was never offensive as I could see to anyone, just struggling with her self-esteem. So many people have just 'gone' and I miss them and wonder how they are. Maybe some of them are back, but I can't tell. I love this site but this lack of continuity is one of its drawbacks I think.
Maybe she wasn't real. Sully
Maybe she wasn't real. Sully is gone as well.
Makes you wonder who is real!
Makes you wonder who is real! She certainly had some issues and now there's no trace of her.
Not everyone that was culled
Not everyone that was culled was offensive. For the life of me, I can't imagine what the reasoning is behind some of them.
I think that it was kind of a
I think that it was kind of a 'zero-tolerance' type of thing. I agree that many of them weren't offensive, but some of those I really respected did start making mean-spirited jokes on posts that everyone agreed were (very obviously) trolls. I usually give even the most extreme cases the benefit of the doubt, but some of these over the past few months have been blatant. I personally don't think they should have been booted for reacting to OBVIOUS fake posts, but apparently admin and Dawn felt differently.
Meezer just by saying that I
Meezer just by saying that I am sure your comment will be deleted. And this one too. I am more of a reader and I noticed a lot of people are being deleted for some reason. :? Not sure who all these people were but why can't people post things now.
Why would people spend so
Why would people spend so much time inventing scenarios that make others want to help? Some people must have very sad lives- they would be better off writing short stories and publishing them as fiction- it easy to do these days!
I can't believe how often I
I can't believe how often I look for a Sueu comment or a monkey with a cigar :(....
Somethingwicked, thanks for the reminder on that last gladiola post....I read it but had completely forgotten that this is how it went down...sheesh
^^This^^ Miss those two and a
^^This^^ Miss those two and a number of others. Of the 43 new members, I doubt that I'd recognize folk. My "Friend" list was sadly depleted once more.
That cigar monkey was so
That cigar monkey was so memorable and much missed.
everyone has a reason for
everyone has a reason for being here, and some people come and move on.
that said public forums are what they are. i take the good ignore the bad and the trolls.
most of those people did not
most of those people did not "move on" of their own free will...
I think I have had a few
I think I have had a few posts deleted! I try to give rational answers but maybe someone complained about me. I don't even know how to complain about a post! I thought this was an open forum but I feel I am being 'policed' by powers that be and some people are getting away with much worse. I didn't come here to troll, I came for excellent advice which, for now, I still need, and get. I sometimes try to give advice back. I thought that was what this forum was for!! Maybe I'm being given unofficial warnings?
I really tried to help
I really tried to help Gladiola, we pm'd allot....some things she did not want not put in public.
and who cares whether it's rented or mortgage? She did not want to put all the details out there, some times it's not about what you pay, it's simply about your feelings, and you wonder if there's people out there who feels the same, who has the same struggles as you... so what if you are not honest about where you live and the ages of the skids, how you got your DH..... it's about what's happening and advice you seek to handle situations.
I've been here long enough to know not to spill every little detail, cause posters crucify you and when you are already down and beaten you do not need a bunch of strangers kicking you in the ribs as well.
Thus if you think a poster is a troll, give her once constructive advice and then leave the post... or do not comment at all, but I wish we all would stop beggaring people left right and center, you do not live whit that person, you have not walked a mile in their stinky shoes, who are we to judge?
I think you have to take
I think you have to take people at face value- something I have done all my life. If I find they have been false then I remove myself from them. The problem with social media is that it distorts out usual 'alarm' mechanisms and often we have gone down a rocky path before we realise it didn't lead anywhere. However, I don't think we should ever under-estimate the effect our posted words may have on someone- immediately recognised or not- somewhere down the line.
I shall in future be more restrained in my responses. I am one of those who tend to give away too much information- I used to think how could anyone take any interest in my shabby little life? I have rarely suffered any online abuse and I'm pretty thick skinned. Steptalk has helped me see how I can reassess and make changes in my life- now I have to make some changes to how I see this web-site.