Not an outing but BM has asked DH to drive her and the skids to the airport for trips. She also called him when she got in a car accident. Both of which to me are husband jobs, not XH jobs.

He refused to drive them to the airport (we don't call her when we need a ride) - he did go to the accident and pick up the kids (minor) and drop her off at her house since it was a few blocks from the accident - I told him to disinfect the seat she sat in. lol

My XH is not on my list to call for things for myself. I have called the XH asking if he can take BD to a class when I had a conflict with something for the other BD a couple times when it was my day - but to me that is the XH job as it pertains only to the BDs and if he couldn't then so be it.

Why yes...Nasty most certainly has pulled this crap. Last summer, she used "family time" as the only way that my FDH would be able to see his XSD. She (Nasty) enjoyed their "family time" immensely & attempted to show FDH how much she'd changed. Yeah...he fell for it for a whopping 2-3 days then saw her true colors coming out.

She didn't try to get back with him but did try to change his way of seeing her.

I blogged about it last summer...the whole fiasco made me want to vomit &/or smack FDH upside the head.

*Sigh*

then he said maybe that would be good for their daughter to see he respects her mom

And that he disrespects you.

The fact that BM requested it is one thing, the fact that your DH said "ok" is quite another.

I think the consensus agrees it is absurd of her to even ask that of him.
Its obvious she has some residual feelings or anger towards him. I wouldnt feel very comfortable if my SO agreed to that.
Its good to show the skids that their dad and their mom can get a long, but it doesnt mean she has to invite your DH over for tea or crumpets or better yet a family get a way. Divorce means seperate lives.
The only time they should be together or see eachother is for school/extra curriculur functions and pickups and drop offs. Other than that, have a nice life!

She has never asked to take them anywhere but she still tries to play the family card as much as possible. If I am unable to make it to an event you will try to make them seem happy.

SO thinks this is retarded though and like at the last basketball practice she was expressing how sad she was he wouldn't make it to more events as the season starts this week and I dropped him off at the airport at 4am this morning. He will not let it fly though and I think that is the important thing he simply embarrassed her in front of everyone, making sure it was apparent they were not together and his new wife would be attending most of the time he couldn't mind you my work schedule also prevents me a lot of the time but just the fact he doesn't let happen is important. He will try to be civil until she makes a comment and then in the most polite way he will shoot her down and embarrass her.

I see husband as the problem here, not BM.

He should have put a stop to the crazy request long ago. By saying OK, he is sending the message that her requests are just fine.

princess mofo and unfreakingreal- LOL!! you know that shit isnt on- EVER!! how the hell dare she even have the audacity to text him that!! but even worse that he said ok, to avoid conflict ?! I would get him to text her 'hell no will I ever go anywhere with you, I respect my wife and our family and we will take SD with our family to disneyland on a spererate outing.' and then cuss her out for being so disrespectful to you.
letting her carry on like this does not make her and her attitude go away, trust me. He needs to rip her a new one and make it crystal clear that you are not to be spoken to/about in anyway.
And why should he shouw SD he respects her mum, surely not putting her 6ft under is enough respect. Some BM's are unbelievable!!!!!!!!

Ooooh, me me I got one!

One night BM texted DH begging him to come to her house, alone, without "her," so they could talk. Guess what "her" she was referring to? Yeah, me. Her plan was to have me babysit her daughter so my husband could come to her house alone at 9pm to "talk."

My DH texted her back and said no effing way. We figured she was drunk and had probably gotten into a fight with her most current boyfriend and needed some male attention.

That Disney World thing is just weird and he needs to nip it in the bud. You got to have boundaries.

see, these joint b.day parties and family gatherings where bm is allowed to attend leads to this crap. if bm has truly moved on, she'll want nothing to do with her ex's family/life because she has her OWN to deal with. i agree with a poster from above, this should have been stopped a long time ago and your dh has not. it's not important why, unless he still has feelings for his ex (you'll know this if he fights your requests to create boundaries), but this woman is way too involved in your marriage and he needs to deal with it now. no more responses to texts/phone calls not pertaining directly to skids. it's ridiculous she feels she has the right to even ask about a vacation with YOUR husband.