Here we go again...
Last week was so peaceful since SS13 was at camp. BM had no reason to torture us because SS wasn't with us. He was supposed to be at camp this week too (DH's week with him), but SS decided he didn't want to go for two weeks. Here comes the DRAMA with BM once again. DH was informed last night that SS wouldn't be going to camp, but he would be staying with BM until Wed. night because "she lost five days last week" with SS at camp. SHE didn't have to send him to camp...SHE wanted him to go! She is also complaining because when DH goes to the office (he usually works at home), SS is home with me. She knew a specific day where this happened...SS is to report everything to her! The divorce agreement gives both DH and BM right of first refusal for day care...but I should NOT be considered day care! First she plans camp on OUR week with SS without consulting DH..now this! She plans things for DH's parenting time and then parents from afar via text message with SS. Parenting time coordinator helps, but he is $200/hr. UGH!!!! Just when I let my guard down and get relaxed, SHE'S BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACK!! Apparently the video about parental alienation didn't register with her. :::Breathing deep::: Only 5 more years til he's 18!
Sorry BM used to be a
Sorry BM used to be a complete biotch when we were first together, and pulled crap like that. Thank goodness the years have mellowed her. I’m glad it’s not just me that’s counting down the years though….lol.
Thanks! The worst part is
Thanks! The worst part is that SS13 and SD19 are basically nice kids...I don't like some stuff they do, but they are kids...I don't mind spending time with them...it's the DRAMA that comes with BM that makes me just want to hide in my room all the time! I guess we need to just look for the humor!! It won't be forever! (I hope)
WOW! It is like listening to
WOW! It is like listening to my own story
But, fortunately for us court ordered BM has to let me share in things like transportation and watching ss. The courts agreed with us on the whole "bm is not being reasonable" thing. Perhaps you could speak to a mediator to get a clause in your agreement. You by no means are or should be considered day care. She is bitter and needs to find her own damn happiness and leave you guys to help raise the children in an ADULT fashion. Keep your head up Lady!
The parenting time
The parenting time coordinator already acknowledged that I am not "day care". I guess BM didn't get that particular memo! It's funny because she's always been nice to me ...she just does everything to screw DH. I wish she would find a man, but then again, I don't want to subject any nice man to her. I don't think she got the "adult fashion" memo either. It's so hard because I try to respond to everything in a Christian manner...I have to walk the walk. So I come on here and vent! Lucky you!! LOL Thanks for the replies!
This time she used text.
This time she used text. Usually it's email. She refuses to talk to DH (which is a blessing if you ask me). She also communicates through the kids, which she has been told damages them and to stop...but she knows best (eyeroll). What they're supposed to do for ANY parenting time changes is email with a cc to the parenting time coordinator. DH does this...BM does this except when she's violating an agreement. Basically when she feels it will benefit her.
The problem is, if DH were to go and try to pick up SS when BM didn't want him to, they would either be gone or she would threaten to call the police. He will not put SS through all that. Up until now, the courts have been useless. BM is very smart and she knows we have a man-hating judge...she has been slapped on the hand several times, but there are no real consequences. Now we have the PTC in place and a psychologist, I pray things will turn around a little. I believe she has BPD, so we're not dealing with a rational person. I am proud of DH and how he is handling things. He doesn't get drawn into the drama...he just states the facts like you did above. Thanks for the advice!