Hey moms! How did you know when you were "ready" to have kids????
Well moms, how did you know when the *right* time to have [your own] kids? I know that I want kids someday, but at the same time it scares the bejesus out of me! I have so many fears.
Here are the things I worry about the most...
1: What if after I have the kid, I decide that I don't like kids?
2: What if I'm a bad mom?
3: What if I resent the lack of freedom I would have and therefore, resent my child?
4: What if I can't loose the pregnancy weight (I used to weigh 200lbs and now weigh about 140lbs. I know how unhealthy and horrible my body felt when I weighed 200lbs...what if I can't loose the weight afterwards and I stay feeling unhealthy and unhappy with my body)
5: What if my husband, after all the 'icky' stuff that goes on during pregnancy, decides he doesn't love me anymore?
6: My husband and I have a pretty darn good relationship, what if a child changes that so much that we end up hating each other, and eventually divorce?
7: What if my kid is born developmentally disabled? (before you all ostracize me please hear me out...I work with developmentally disabled adults. On the whole, I think the individuals I work with are some of the most compassionate and amazing human beings I have ever met. HOWEVER, in my line of work I have seen these same individuals mistreated, spoken down too, abused, neglected, and harassed just because they are different and people think they can and won't get caught. I know that I can and would love any child of mine that is DD, but eventually I am going to die. If I have a child that has DD and I die, who is going to look out for them as well as I would? I can't bear the thought of bringing a child into this world that may end up in that predicament.)
Am I being completely irrational? Have any of you ever experienced similar feelings? Thanks for your input!
I have the opposite problem.
I have the opposite problem. I obsess daily about the fact that I may never be a mom.
"God is great, beer is good, and people are crazy" and you can't change crazy!!
I think you are thinking too
I think you are thinking too much, and putting alot into "what-ifs."
What if 2012 was a real thing and we all are gonna die in 2 years anyway?
I guess my point is to say "relax." Having a child is a big decision, but it should bring you joy, not frustration and misery.
~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~
What if I never saw
What if I never saw 2012?...Just kidding
I know I have a lot of "what ifs" I was just curious if others had the same issue before having kids or if I am abnormal. I mean, I already know I'm weird, this shouldn't be a surprise for me if I am also abnormal ;-P
I think the fact that you
I think the fact that you are so concerned about being a good mom already says a lot about the kind of mother you will be...
~*~When you kiss ass, your breath smells like sh*t~*~
It is actually the men in my
It is actually the men in my life who wanted kids so very badly.
That's a lot of what if's.
That's a lot of what if's. if youre not considering immediately trying to have a baby,i would just take a deep breath and calm down. the fact that you are worrying about whether or not you would be a good mother is a good sign. one step at a time, k? when the time is right and you want to have a baby, you'll just know.
"if you don't have anything nice to say, then shut the fuck up."
you are pretty normal and I
you are pretty normal and I wish all BMs thought this way before having kids.. I have the same thoughts. Trust me, we are in the same boat on this one. I think I may be ready, but still have insecurities about it. I think the women that just pop em out like its nothing, you have to worry about.
Same thoughts here. Though
Same thoughts here. Though I'm also petrified I'm going to have an ugly baby (I know, I sound horrible but I truly think that...).
oh man...you just reminded
oh man...you just reminded me of a hypnotist show that I saw once upon a time when I was in college. The hypnotist hypnotized this MAN into thinking he was pregnant and gave birth. When the guy finally had his "kid", he set it next too him on the stage and then proceeded to scoot 4-5 feet away from "it". The hypnotist asked him what he was doing and the guy whispered to him "it's sooooo ugly" and had the most terrified look on his face. It was HILARIOUS!
I think all children look like aliens until they are about 10 months old. I don't think you sound horrible at all