My boyfriend and I have been dating since Jan 2010.
We started talking about getting married August 2011.
He asked me in May 2012 to hold off talking about the wedding until his house was finished.
We started shopping for rings August 2012.
He bought the ring October 2012.
His house was finished March 2013 and we moved in.
And I am still waiting for an "official" proposal.
Three months ago I had an opportunity to take a job 3 hours away.
He (and his kids) begged me not to take it. He told me he was getting some things in place to "make a big show" of asking me.
Two months ago I mentioned again 'what are you waiting for?' He said he was having a sign made that he and the kids came up with a great way to ask me.
Three days ago I talked with him again and said, "I'm not even sure I'll be happy about it when you do it. You have had so many opportunities. If you wanted to do it, you would have done it already." He told me he was waiting for Aug 2nd because last year on that date, I had something really bad happen to me and he never wanted me to have bad things associated with Aug 2nd, he wanted it to be a good day. He asked me to take off early from work so I would be coming home before the kids left at 5pm. I pull in the driveway and my boyfriend walks over to me and explains that he started to work on the plan to ask me but his 12 year old started getting moody so he stopped. :jawdrop:
WTF?????
He had planned to propose to me but instead chose to give his kid extra attention because she was moody about going to visitation at her mom's????

I went inside and waited until the kids left. And I told him I was going to look for a job two hours away in my mom's town and when I got one I was out.
I then told him this whole timeline, and showed him how he had so many opportunities to ask me and he kept letting things get in the way.
That its been over 3 and a half years dating.
Over 2 years since he first said he wanted to marry me.
He has had the ring bought for almost a year and has not given it to me.
The house which we were supposedly waiting on has been done for 5 months.
And where the hell is the banner you were waiting on????
OH HE TELLS me it was too expensive,.... SO, you lied to me. Said you were having it made, BUT THEN looked into the cost, and decided not to have a sign or banner or what the hell ever....
I told him if he really wanted to do something he would have done it.
And that he needs to figure out what was stopping him because today he was totally fine with throwing our relationship in the toilet because a 12 year old girl had a mood swing.
Something is stopping him or he would not be letting anything stop him.

I don't think I'm angry at him, I think that's already past. I'm just hurt, I cried my eyes out last night. He begged me to give him one more chance. He showed me what he and the kids were working on. Each one of them took a stack of index cards and wrote things that they like about me on them, or why they want me to be a part of their family, and my boyfriend wrote things he loves about me...

I don't want to leave. But I told him I will not live in a house when a 12 year old girl can get pissy and he lets it effect the rest of our lives. It will not happen again or I will be gone without question, without conversation, just gone.

This is his last chance. He needs to figure out why he has not done it. If he wants to SOOOO bad, what is stopping him, all the little things are excuses, there is something bigger that he isn't admitting to that is holding him back.