Not in those exact words, but yes. The "comments" to the proposed change order came over from his attorney today.

It excludes emergency situations. I didn't include all the exact verbage above, but that's the general jist.

She wants that in there because she likes ot make medical decisions on her own without DH's input. She has a history of doing this and DH has made it clear he won't tolerate it going forward.

The 48 hours is unreasonable for the simple fact that DH lives 45 miles away from her and works as law enforcement. 48 hours is never enough time for him to get a day off work to attend a dr appointment with the skids (if he wanted to).

Oh I was just kidding. DH won't agree to it. The specific language is:

The parties agree that the children shall each be enrolled in one activity (for 2013-2014 it will be soccer). Each parent shall be responsible for transporting the children to and from the activity on his or her scheduled time with the children. If the parties wish to enroll the children in any additional activities, then the parties will either need the express written consent of the other parent (email is sufficient) or can place the child in the activity so long as it does not interfere with the other parent’s time.

It doesn't specify which parent can enroll them, or where the activity is to take place. If DH wanted to play hardball and be sneaky, he'd be within his rights to enroll the skids in soccer in our local rec league and BM would have to comply.

DH won't settle for less time than what he currently has. The change order he proposed only clarified certain aspects of their agreement .. basically to close loopholes she's been taking liberal advantage of for the past two years.

She basically nixed all of his proposed clarifications (clearly defining spring break, winter break, notification requirements for vacations, etc) and is just trying to get more time.

Her proposal may work for many people, but it's not what DH wanted and not what they agreed to in their original custody agreement.

I know that. You know that. It still pissed DH off to no end though

1) He currently has 2 days a week during school years. In the past, when she was living closer, he took those as his 2 days off work so he could maximize his time with the kids. Now that she lives 45 miles away, they agreed via email that he would have Friday and Saturday (her offer, not his) as his 2 days per week. That is what he had put into the order, only because they had previously agreed to it. His propsed change was only a clarification to the specific days of the week (BM likes to change DH's days whenever she wants or when she has other plans) and would not have received any additional time as a result.

2) He's fine with extracurriculars, but the distance SHE created by moving puts all of that burden on DH to make it work. There is way too much ambiguity in this specific proposed change. It would essentially become a race to whoever can enroll skids first ..

3) He's okay with splitting Christmas break. He actually suggested it and she denied it (again via email before the change order was drafted). The "split" she wants alternates Christmas Day and Christmas Eve each year; but gives her all weekday "winter break" days and DH the weekend days. This will never be HALF of winter break for DH.

4) He'd be okay alternating/splitting Spring Break if she wasn't trying to take so much time in other areas.

5) He will absolutely say no.

6) Totally agree

The actual language is:

The parties agree that the children shall each be enrolled in one activity (for 2013-2014 it will be soccer). Each parent shall be responsible for transporting the children to and from the activity on his or her scheduled time with the children.

I don't think it means that BM would have to transport them. My quick summary above was probably a little too brief.