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My lawn looks like a million bucks bc sorry ass skids

justshutup's picture

I cant enjoy "my" house because of scavenger ass skids. I own my home and made a fatal error moving my gf in when we were in honeymoon stage. Now im stuck with her little trolls. I cannot even sit and watch tv,without a thousand questions comments complaints. So guess what?? In 20° weather im cleaning yard, splitting wood, raking gumballs. In 90° weather im cleaning mowing and spending literally every waking hour in yard to escape the little s o bs. Power equipment gets rid of em. Only peace on this earth I get is yard work. Oh so you wanna,help? Ill stick their ass in the far back corner doing hideous work. Needless to say they dont wanna help now. I endure a turturous dinner with the jabbermouths before retreating,to my bedroom to hide. I gulp down 3 tylenol pm and 3 melatonin, fan on high and pass out.,thanks skids for me hating my life and every moment I share with you....but hey my yard looks dam good.

goincrazy.com's picture

You should come work on my yard- I'm about ready to hire someone, FDH says he's gonna do it everyday and never does. It's so bad I'm surprised we haven't got a ticket from the city.....ugh it's embarrassing

Does your gf catch on that you are using this technique to get away?

justshutup's picture

Well I live in va, if your close I will I used to rehab homes I really do love doing it. I have always liked improving things. My mother is 100% german maybe thats why I cant stop workin on stuff until its perfect.

SMof2Girls's picture

Have you talked to your GF about this? Are you going to stick it out, or make a change?

Living the dream's picture

If you're not serious about having a future with your girlfriend, you need to start thinking seriously about ending this relationship and getting your house/life back.

Your life is too important to be miserable every day. There are women out there with no kids or well-behaved kids who won't get on your nerves so much.

justshutup's picture

Sorry for the rant earlier, I feel better now lol, I cant talk to her. She is very snappy if I say anything its all out war. Im planning on leaving her eviction and all, I guess im just gettin by as of now, I hate fighting, I hate arguements so I guess ill do it when times right. The kids are already claiming my belongings when I die lol, little do they know I willed every penny, house, guns gold silver tools to baby brother whose 25. They wont get a thing. they have their stinkin father to get stuff from. Im not willing my things to promote another family name.

betterdaysahead12's picture

SMH! I used to feel like this about my skids, but really thought hard about why it is that I was “hating” them so much… I recently realized it’s their behavior, not so much them, that pisses me off. It’s not just me who sees this because DH own sister now does not let them stay the night over. Also MIL’s husband does not want them at their house unless he is not home.. But the worst part is my DH does nothing to rectify their behavior, so they continue to behave ridiculously. I used to always hide in my room and felt like a prisoner in my own home. Things are slowly getting better because I started disengaging for a short while until DH complained that I was ignoring his kids. Well discipline them, control them please. Things are better than they used to be, but not without complaints…. There are still many issues… I’m enjoying my life a little these days because they are staying at their mother’s house for the summer (DH has them full time). I’m not completely enjoying it because I count each day down until they return…. Why do we do that? Countdown…..

justshutup's picture

Thats painful to read bc I can feel the anxiety and resentment. I dont hate the kids but like you I hate the behavior, they waste everything make messes. Dont have any care of a dollar and how hard I work. Ages 10 12 15 they should but no they dont. Also when they are all three home and together its hell, literally, their bm is a rude wild mean wastsful bitch so they come by it honestly. I dont know what to do anymore. She screams if I gently say hey I really wanna see them doin chores and this house needs cleaning. Like my post my yard is flawless bc I take pride. Inside shoot...i do what I can but its far from my standard. Am I a bad guy for not accepting waste and desiring a clean house? I just dont know anymore...it sucks o her ex husband is exactly like me nice yard and super clean house. She left I guess cuz she wanted to live trashy and he constantly complained.

SanAntonioSoccerMom's picture

Summer is always the worst. I totally blew my top with my steps last night and they are 19 and 20. I almost want to get a summer job working 3-11 so I can be out of the house!! It's only 7/3 and they don't go back to college for months. UGH

Onefootout's picture

You make me grateful for my much smaller problems. You are being presented with some insurmountable obstacles. Three kids are just too many, and I think you're being taken advantage of. And I completely understand not being able to talk about problems, my SO also goes ballistic, it's a great tactic to shut me down and avoid addressing issues.

Yes you have a right to expect an orderly house but I'm confident you will never get that with these kids, ever. Are you prepared for that?

Did you live by yourself before moving your gf and her kids in? If so I think it's a huge change in lifestyle all at once with no time to adjust. I've actually been in a similar situation before. too many kids. And now I just have to deal with one older kid with my current SO. It's hard but more manageable.

I really sympathize and please don't feel bad if you decide this isn't working. And I'm a little concerned the kids are even thinking about claiming your stuff after you die. That's disturbing since you're not even married. Who is putting these ideas in their heads? Someone is. Regardless these kids are showing signs of lack of good vales and that might not change for a long time. I didn't even do that with my own parents when I was a kid.

I wish you the best.

StepX2's picture

"their bm is a rude wild mean wastsful bitch"
Why are you even in this relationship? :?
Nevermind, just reread the second sentence of what you wrote in your blog. Thinking with the small brain gets too many men in bad situations. Sorry that you are so miserable. Sad

Carah's picture

I love that there is a step dad on here. I'm sorry for your situation. But I am glad it's not just us stepmoms feeling this way. I know how hard it is when you have one foot out the door, as I am waiting for my other foot to follow. Again I'm sorry to find a little pleasure in your crappy situation. I hope it gets better for you.