not christmas.....again???
:O Well the holidays are upon us, again. If things were different I'd be thrilled, but there worse than last year! I have NO desire to shop for or spend my money on the sbrats!
Sd8 more or less admitted to stealing a VERY special ring that belonged to me. On the day I went christmas shopping, needless to say, I bought her nothing!
Then Dh asks last night what are we, meaning me, buying the "girls" for christmas?? UMmmm, how about nothing! Sd5 I will buy the barbie hair thingy she's asked for ALL year, but, Sd8...how about I go to a jewelry store and buy something I Love, when she opens it take it and say "Thanks for replacing the ring you STOLE" which is irreplaceable, due to the fact that my dead brother is wearing a matching ring, that they no longer sell!!!
I'm just at a loss, HELP, what should I do? What would ya'll do in my situation? I tried to buy the little witch something but, I put it right back down when the thought of what she's taken from me crossed my mind. I've seen these little bags of chocolate coal, that too, just seems to nice. She'd totally miss the point and just scarf down the chocolate inside! I can't keep putting it off. Next thing ya know it'll be christmas morning, and I'll have nothing for Daddy to hand the little princess. And if I tell him to do it he will, undoubtedly buy her something WAY to expensive and far mor than she deserves. We have 8 kids to buy for. And my kids have one christmas, while the princesses have three!
Sorry to go on and on, I'm just so lost as to what to do here??
What a brat! Make her give
What a brat! Make her give you your ring back!
I've begged and begged her to
I've begged and begged her to bring it back! She says "I didn't take it, I don't know where it is" yet last visit she told my dd "I took your moms ring"
So that's where we stand right now, nothing like a mexican standoff at Christmas.
Strip her room down to
Strip her room down to nothing and search everything. Dont leave a toy or stuffed animal in it. I may be evil but if husband said anything about not doing it to me I would tell him to F-off. My aunt did a similar thing as the ring but hers is a necklace and her son was put to rest with the other half. She would be devastated if anything happened to it..
I am so sorry for you.
When DH asks what you are
When DH asks what you are giving sd8 for Christmas, perhaps a suitable response would be: "nothing. Not until she gives my ring back. You know the one which matches my dead brother's, which can never be replaced and is breaking my heart....what are you going to do about it?!"
Seriously? :jawdrop: I have heard from awful things on here, but that is one of the saddest
I completely advocate not buying her anything until 1) your DH confronts her and completely whips her butt 2) she gives it back and begs your forgiveness...and only then she would get a cursory small gift and be told the reason for that.
If she doesnt, your DH should be immediately stripping her room to search for it and insist upon her room at BM's being searched (in fact I would hope BM would do this without asking) your DH should her mother knows, all her grandparents, friends so that they ALL can keep their eyes peeled for it and be humiliated and ignored until she does. As for gifts? HELL NO.
What is she going to steal next? Your wedding ring? Daddy's car keys/credit card?
Has DH explained to her the importance of this ring to her and told her what he thinks of her antics?
Honestly, I wouldnt want her in my home if she was stealing. Whats worse is the value of this ring considering its history.
Believe me I'd LOVE to search
Believe me I'd LOVE to search her room, she lives w/bm. And she claims not to have seen it.
Here's my theory, Dh gave me his Grandmothers wedding rings, very expensive, wedding rings. She got a simple gold band when they were married. She has seen, and commented on my ring. I figure she told her little lying, thief of a daughter to take it, what she would do with it, I figure pawn it. Out of spite!
Sd goes into my room looking for it, Thank GOD I put it in my jewelry cleaner before jumping in the shower! So she couldn't find it and in her 8yr old brain, figured a ring is a ring and grabbed my ring matching my brothers. This is all just theory, and I can't prove a bit of it. But, I'd bet my life THAT'S what went down!!!
Definately like this idea! Do
Definately like this idea! Do it and I would call the cops too. Doesnt matter what DH thinks, its not his late brother's ring which has gone walkies courtesy of his relative!
Urgh, I couldnt even look at
Urgh, I couldnt even look at the lying little thief. I dont care how old she is, something like that can never be forgiven.
It doesnt matter if BM has egged sd on, ultimately she had a choice. I appreciate PASing is abuse and encouraging a child to steal falls into this category, but if there is no consequence to sd's behaviour from DH (and something serious) then where does the lying and stealing stop?!
I agree. Make the little
I agree. Make the little brats' life hell until it is returned. I am so sorry for your loss - both of your brother and the ring. This is simply beyond the pale.
You have all given me some
You have all given me some GREAT ideas! Thank you!
@Delilah, I agree whole heartedly and when she finally admitted it, she got a good ol' fashioned butt whoopin! I was bawling on the outside knowing my ring is quite possibly gone for good, but, inside I was smiling ear to ear! Finally this monster got what was coming!
She was then sent to her room for the rest of the day. And taken home to her fat, ugly mother first thing the next morning! I've called the bm and asked her to look for it. She "claims" she did. But, I think it was all her idea to begin with, so I wasted my breath. They sbrats share a room with my girls when their here. Stripping their room isn't an option. They were just as sick over this as me. They absolutly adored their uncle. And wanted to kick her little butt for making their mommy cry. (I should've let them)
Dh is sick over it to, he never spanks them. Yet she got one that day. Within 6 months we lost, my brother, his grandmother, then his mother. So he's very understanding about how I feel.