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OT - when you see a SM nightmare developing

SMof2Girls's picture

My boss's boss just got married. She was a single mom; never been married prior. She is this man's 4th wife. He has 3 exes and kids with all of them.

Apparently, the oldest ones aren't in the picture. The younger ones (from the 2nd and 3rd wives) are and they HATE wife #4 (woman I work with). Her son (around 12yo I think) does not like his new stepdad either.

She dated this guy for 4 months and then showed up to work flaunting a diamond the size of a small egg. They were married 2 months later (last month).

I've since heard her complain several times that she's moving into his house (which he shared with each one of his previous wives) and that he won't let her change anything decor-wise.

I can see this going downhill very quickly. She's very much in the honeymoon stage and her decisions are all made with rose-colored glasses on. If I actually LIKED her, I'd offer some support. But she's a pretty miserable person to work for.

I just can't help but wonder .. what goes through the mind of wife #4? Does it never register that maybe, JUST MAYBE, it's the guy and not all the women who have the problems?

SMof2Girls's picture

The worst part about the whole thing is that she doesn't handle stress well. As a pretty high-level executive, she's got the power to make our lives miserable when her personal life is in shambles Sad

askYOURdad's picture

Some of us legitimately didn't know what we were getting into. I, for one, chalked up my ex telling me BM was "psycho" to bitterness, he was right, I was wrong, a lot of the escalation and drama occurred when we got married. I missed one red flag. I would still marry DH now, knowing what I know, I would just do a few things differently.

This chick, she has quite a few red flags here. Most concerning being how quickly he proposed. I would be apprehensive of someone who was married twice, let alone three times and popping the question that quickly???

I feel for your friend/co worker. She will probably have to learn this one the hard way, I hope she doesn't get pregnant before she learns.

SMof2Girls's picture

She's in her late 40s and I seriously doubt she has any plans to have more kids. She's kind of a b*tch, to be perfectly honest. We have several pregnant ladies in the office now and she's been heard saying things like, "Why would anyone want to have more kids these days? They're so expensive!"

I don't feel bad for her .. I almost feel like she's got some karma coming her way.

I think most stepmoms are blindsided as the second wife (myself included), but the 4th? Idk .. maybe he's really just THAT good at sweeping them off their feet?

The added kicker is that all of his previous wives gave up their careers to be SAHMs. I cannot imagine her doing that .. but time will tell ..