Panic Room
What was the name of that movie with Jodie Foster, where she lives in this big old house and the bad guys come after her and she locks herself in this safe room? Was it Panic Room? Anyway, my safe zone away from skid11 is work. BUT my BF and I work together, AND today is Columbus Day and no school, AND another person already took the day off, SO my BF had to drag skid to work 
. Now the little freak who we were stuck with for the last THREE, yes THREE, weekends in a row because BM didn't want to deal with him and BF accomodates her every wish, is here lurking around my place of business. I have to have lunch with him to be nice...because that is my job to be nice. Nevermind, my past three weekends and the great majority of weekdays were spent listening to him whine, and act like a 3 year old, and watch his crap on TV and eat what he wanted for dinner and babysit him while BF went off to play football. Usually when I escape to work after a skid weekend, I breathe a huge sigh of relief, not today, today he followed me like one of those annoying summer flies. BM finally takes him tonight, at whatever time suits her, if she has no better offer. I wish I had a Panic Room!
Ouch - I always thought it
Ouch - I always thought it was bad when my MIL worked here and she would bring them in and parade them around like they were so wonderful and then get upset when I wouldn't drop everything to gush over them. Umm I'm at work and this is my space!
And this is how you make it
And this is how you make it bearable.
For every hour of good stepmotherhood you are rewarded with $5. At the end of the protracted Time of Sufferance you add up your Good Behaviour $5's and go shopping!
If you can't afford it set it aside in your mental bank account so one day you can collect Big Time.
I would actually encourage SS to go to football with his dad. Isn't this one of those bonding things guys are supposed to do?
Or I would manage to find an errand to run before BF leaves.
Actually I used C-Span as a wonderful weapon of Abuse. If I was minding my ssons and they stepped out of line the next time they wanted to watch TV they had to sit through 30 mins of C-Span. Hopefully it was some reading by a new author in some tiny bookstore in Upstate NY with 6 other people there.
Now from what I am reading the person your SHOULD be angry at is your BF for allowing his Heir Apparent to behave this way. I would have sexed him into my way of thinking a LONG time ago.
But the $5 reward money REALLY helps. That and faking being nice. Pretending to be some character from TV. It drives the kids nuts and they keep as far away from you as possible.
My God, woman, are you my
My God, woman, are you my other personality?! Almost same exact thing. BM asked us last week if we could keep SS8 today, because he is out of school. God forbord she put the school holidays on the Google calendar we set up to share with her. Then, instead of picking him up at 5:15 like she originally said, she says she will pick him up "around 7pm." Means anywhere from 7-8pm, whenever she decides to do it. We just got married Saturday, and this is her way of showing me that she and her kid's needs will come over mine. And once again DH rolled over to her, "because she was nice about it and I didn't see a reason to make an issue of it, since that's early." WHUUUUUT? Nevermind that she was letting him call Saturday, twice, but I had requested phones be off all day so it could be our day. nevermind that she started texting again last night, then again at 7am today. Nevermind that my doctor just put me on Zoloft today because of my BP shooting up over this woman and the kid. I'm getting off work, going to the tanning bed, and getting my dose of future skin cancer and RELAXING!!
Triggerfishgal, I am sorry
Triggerfishgal, I am sorry for you. We all know a wedding ring won't magically change a guy's behavior, but good grief, can't he even pretend for a few days? Where's the honeymoon, and if you can't go on a honeymoon, can't he give you a week of skid free time as a small gesture? If you say no calls on your wedding day, then NO CALLS. Your man should disconnect the phone himself. What is his problem? It makes me upset to think about it...sadly in part because that is how my BF is too. Its all about making the ex happy at all costs. But to imagine him doing that during and right after our wedding...horrible. Hang in there. You are right, hold your ground. You deserve better treatment...and I don't mean antidepressents. Isn't that awful? The number of women who end up on antidepressants because their men drive them to such misery.
My update...skid finally left work, pheeeew. BF has to drive all the way across town to deliver him to BMs door. She works 5 minutes from our workplace, but didn't want to bother to come get skid, easier for her if BM drives the 45 minutes to her house. The only way we can get rid of skid is to plop him on her doorstep...lazy -----. Anyway, my consolation prize is that the skid has this weird homework assignment for tomorrow. They all have to bake something and bring it in. Ha Ha, BM does nothing but watch TV on her fat ass, and now she has to bake. Ha Ha. Everything she "cooks" looks like a blob of unrecognizable goop. I almost feel sorry for skid (okay, not really) that he will have to take her dish to school. If you hear about an outbreak of salmonella...that's BM homework assignment. I will enjoy the thought of her attempting to use the kitchen while I relax tonight, SKID FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE