At the beginning of summer break, BM informed us that she wanted skids in June despite never sending DH any notice. DH didn't fight it because BM had skids in her possession and he thought it easier not to argue.

Well, DH sent BM notice, as per CO, on this past Friday that he'd be keeping skids on 3rd weekend in July rather than returning to BM. When BM got the letter she called DH to discuss. This was the conversation:
BM: "you sent me this letter about the 3rd weekend, but kids are already with you, my time is up on Sunday".
DH: "the CO says I have to give notice if I wish to keep the kids during one of your weekends".
BM: "you must be reading it wrong, I get 31 days and that ends on Sunday, but I was going to ask if I could just see them on one weekend before school starts back up"
DH: "okay I'll look at it and then get back with you".

Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't BM, as NCP get 31 consecutive days in summer as well as the 1-3-5 weekends during the other two months?

But BM has basically told DH he can have skids for rest of summer.

Well Sunday rolls around and BM is a no show. DH text and BM responded "you got kids for entire Father's day weekend even though you were only supposed to get the day of Father's day, so I'm keeping kids an extra night". DH just said whatever.

So today we picked up skids and ss8 tells us ss6 was crying when he had to leave mommy because mommy told ss6 that daddy wanted to keep skids for two whole months and mommy wouldn't get to see them for a really long time and mommy was sad because mommy would miss them a lot". :jawdrop:

Once again, BM puts stories into skids head like DH is the aggressor when he's actually so darned passive about these things that it irritates the crap out of me. But seriously? BM volunteered to give up her time in my opinion. If we have it in text that BM told DH that BM "just wants to see skids on one weekend before school starts back" is it our job to inform BM that she's giving away time that's given to her by CO?