SOOOO PISSED!!!

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Really why do doctors and hospitals automatically put the fathers name on the bills??? Just got a bill for over 500 and going to collections if not paid in full! Never even knew it existed. So mad i'm shaking. The ins did not cover any of it so it makes me wonder why bm took him in and for what? Not to mention that if ins didn't cover it then she did not do what she was supposed to do!!! My guess on purpose! We don't have the money for that we have been trying to get our credit back up and she goes and does this??? She should be responsible if she didn't follow the rules of the ins. She knows the rules!

Why do these bm's think they can do this?/ :sick:

Because BM's are jealous,

Because BM's are jealous, evil, and vindictive. They are relentless and will stop at nothing to make her EX miserable.

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The hospitals do not

The hospitals do not automatically put the father's name on the bills - your BM told them to do that - does you DH cover there insurance - that is how she got to put your DH's name on the bill - it is not automatic they need to be told where the bill is going to.

Thank you caregiver I tried

Thank you caregiver I tried to tell my dh that. He just said that since he carries the ins they automatically put him on the bill. I will try to find a link to show him. thanks

BM does this also! A long

BM does this also! A long time ago, when this first happened, I called the clinic and asked about the bill. By me questioning them, the biller realized that the BM had been the one that signed the paperwork and was therefore the RESPONSIBLE party no matter what she wrote down. SHE SIGNED THE PAPERWORK! THEY told me that. So that is exactly what I do now when that happens! The BM can call or text DH and tell him what his share of the bill is (but b/c of this, she now tries to manipulate the situation to where she says that she cannot take SS to the Dr). If you call the clinic, office etc... and she signed the paperwork, she is responsible for the bill to get paid if your DH's insurance doesn't cover it,and tell them to please send the bill to BM house.
Also, when BM calls/texts with amount you guys owe her, check with clinic or insurance company to see if the amount she gave you is accurate. Good luck! Hope this helps!

If your DH got this past-due

If your DH got this past-due bill, the previous bills should've come to him too. I'm not sure how he would get this one & not ones sent previously.

I don't know really. i

I don't know really. i normally don't open his mail but this one was screaming at me to open like something was not right. I opened it and now dh says he is too busy to take care of it today. ggrrr!

If he's "too busy" to take

If he's "too busy" to take care of it today, maybe he did get the ones prior & was "too busy" to deal with them then, too.

I was thinking the same

I was thinking the same thing! I am just so pissed b/c we can't afford this and he is not taking care of it! It will go on our credit report if he doesn't pay but we have NO money to pay! Now I don't mind paying half if it was a real reason for him to go but this is the first I have heard about this and you can't just not tell me and expect me to pay all of it.

It will go on his credit

It will go on his credit report. Not yours....

This is why we don't co-mingle funds... BM had to have put his name down. Send the bill to her and call them and tell them you are not paying it. They will go after her.

I already called to ask that

I already called to ask that question and yes she had to put his name on the papers as him being responsible. I told dh that. He said that he will call tomorrow and get it taken care of.

Now I don;pt mind paying for half is there was a good reason she took him in but to just put dh's name down and send the bill here that makes me MAD!! So mad that I do not want to help pay this bill. Plus as I said the ins did not cover any of it so that means she had to do something wrong and not follow the rules. dh said he will find out tomorrow why ins did not cover. That way we have all the facts and why we will not pay! She did this behind our backs and that is why I am so pissed and that she seems to think that we are the ONLY ones responsible for HER kids!

Purple Daisies- You need to

Purple Daisies-

You need to end the game. Call the hospital/ doctor that submitted the bill to you and ask one simple question.

"Who signed the concent for treatment for the procedure(s) performed?"

That is the person that is responsible for the bill. The concent for treatment is a legal document that covers all the what if's, where for's etc. He or she that signs it, is responsible for the bill. It is written INTO the concents. Call the Hosp/ Dr. Make them redirect the bill to BM/whoever signed the concent. I understand most CO's have it broken down that each parent is responsible for certain percentages of medical expenses that must be 'reimbursed'.

Tell BM to show you a receipt where the bill was paid and you will reimburse her your DH's amount. If you allow this game to start, it will never end. Nip it in the bud now.

Exactly!!!!!! My DH had this

Exactly!!!!!! My DH had this happen and we did exactly that!!!!

I know that is what I will

I know that is what I will tell dh to do. I can't do it as it is not in my name it was billed to just dh. He said hw would take care of it tomorrow. He has a very early day on fridays so he better do something.

Thanks so much ladies the info I get here is wonderful and so helpful. you guys are the best and thanks for letting me vent!

If your DH calls the clinic

If your DH calls the clinic or faxes a paper saying that it is ok to release info to you and signs it, that should be good enough. That's what we did. I called the clinic and said how can we do this? He is at work, cannot leave... I went to DH work, had him fill out a paper that stated this info, signed and dated it, gave me his drivers license and they released info to me. Then I picked up a sheet of paper fromthe clinic that DH completed, that released info to me ANYTIME. At this time, we were only dating! It's crazy huh?

What does the contract say?

What does the contract say? Does it say he will pay 50% or 75% of unpaid bills. First make sure that it was filed on ins and if he does owe 50% he pays that only. He faxes them a copy of the contract with a letter stating what each are responsible for. After the notification they have to go after her and leave him alone because they are forced to honor the contract. If all else fails you can always put the bill on your credit card. They cannot report him to the credit bureau after he pays what he owes.

We do not have a credit card!

We do not have a credit card! We do not like debt, the only things we make payments on is our house and car. Yep 1 car we pay cash for if we can if not we do not buy.

he will find out why ins did not pay tomorrow, I will look on his papers for how much is to pay of med.brb

Ok it says that he is to pay

Ok it says that he is to pay half and that she is notify him of his half.

So she didn't follow

So she didn't follow instructions.

She signed the consent to treat, the bill should go to her name. She should then notify your DH. Sounds like an easy fix *hopefully*

Thanks ladies dh is supposed

Thanks ladies dh is supposed to betaken care of it today! He better! But then he lost his phone yesterday on top of the crap!

Wow!What a day!

Yes it was b/c I felt like he

Yes it was b/c I felt like he lost his phone just so he didn't have to call. We got into a fight b/c of all this. He just doesn't see the big deal! :jawdrop:

I told him that he better remember when he is married too.

Usually Dr. offices have

Usually Dr. offices have whomever is bringing the child in to sign a form that if bill isn't paid by insurance they will cover it. If DH didn't sign such a form the Dr.'s office shouldn't be holding him responsible and I'd demand them remove any damange to credit, etc. Whomever takes child to Dr. should be sending bill's statements to the other so they pay whatever share is court ordered. Sucks to deal with such crap!

Yes it is especially when dh

Yes it is especially when dh thought he was supposed to just suck it up and pay the whole thing! Yep we got into it last night! I am even more pissed! But he said he would take care of it.

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