Unsure of What to Do and Feel Stuck in Middle...

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My wife and I have been together 3 years and married 1. She has 3 kids and so do I.
My family has the financial means to be able to take us on trips to the mountains or trips to the beach and the last 5 times my wife has gone. However the last couple of times on these trips my wife has acted like a diva, kinda a spoiled brat and pouts like a 2 year old at times. This has rubbed some of my family the wrong way.
So because of this behavior my family has decided that it would be best that she "just sit this trip" out to avoid some of the diva antics. This will be the first time my daughter is old enough to go and we all just want to enjoy that and not deal with the other antics that may come along with my wife being there. I do love my wife but she indeed does bring alot of drama and needs my full attention whenever or where ever we go. Needless to say she is devestaed by not going and has cried for 3 straight days and is now saying my family are all bitches and basically wants a divorce If I go without her. My marriage has been very shaky lately anyway and quite honestly I want to go with my kids.

Im tired of feeling stuck in the middle. Would it be wrong of me to go?

If you want out of the

If you want out of the marriage than just tell your wife. Don't use your kids as a scapegoat.

If you do not want out of the marriage but are just unhappy with your wife's behaviour then let her know why her behavoiur upsets YOU and how she needs to change. Be direct!

Maybe she could plan some activities she would like to do. Are you making her feel like an outsider when your family is around??? Maybe you and your family can include her and not make her feel like an outsider.

Your family should NOT have the say-so on whether your wife is invited or not!!! That is your first mistake!!! Letting your children decide when your spouse is invited and when she is not.

Would you tell your family I will go on vacation with you but you cannot bring YOUR spouse??? :jawdrop:

YOU are stuck in the middle because you allowed your family to put you there!!! It is your fault not your wife's.

If you want out, get out. If

If you want out, get out.
If you want to stay married, well then... I'd think that going on a "family vacation" withOUT your wife is NOT the way to do it.
You should have addressed her bad behavior when it happened, instead of waiting for someone else to do it. You need to man up and approach your wife and tell her you AGREE with your family and her behavior at these things is out of line. Use YOUR words and tell her how YOU feel. Tell her you should have said something sooner, but were afraid of upsetting her. (Who spends THREE DAYS crying when there's hasn't been the death of a loved one??? Oh, yeah, an immature, emotionally manipulative woman.
I'd suggest you spend the time in marital counseling instead of going on vacation.
BTW, kudos to your family for being honest with you.

I agree with StickAFork on

I agree with StickAFork on most of her response. I will say that one thing you have to consider for older women is menopause. I don't know this womans age but could she be over-reacting because of hormones???

If she is being clingy and bratty on these vacations is there any other indications that she is having hormonal issues and should see a doctor? Menopause effects all women differently. Sometimes hormones can make women very immature, emotional and selfish. I have seen this in women in my family and have felt it at times.

It is a time that husbands need to be very understanding and leaving your wife while you go on vacation with your family just doesn't get it. Just saying...