my boyfriend and I broke up a month ago, but around 2 weeks ago, he began calling me like crazy. This is a new thing for us, because he rarely used to call me at all when we were together. And then he began texting me when he realized I wasn't picking up his calls. Texting is waaay new, because he's only owned the pay-as-you go phones for emergencies only and never texted anyone!

Well, as some of you may remember, he became mad at me when I told him that he needs to set some boundaries with BM. He basically broke up with me afterwards. For the first few days post-breakup, I was calling him a couple times/day, but then I gave up and decided to move on with life and I was doing very well with everything after the first week. And then he began calling me/texing me with all of his "I love you, I miss you, etc". I cracked and told him that I will be home for 3 days (I'm on a long biz trip) and we can get together to discuss things then.

So, over the weekend we had dinner one evening (no sex or anything) and he told me that he realizes that he needs to set boundaries with her and he realizes he needs to put me first! He basically admitted that he is a little scared of her - that she is a big liar and manipulator and he does whatever it takes to keep the peace. Oh, and he has a plan to help with boundary setting. It isn't earth shattering to me, but it is a start. Little baby steps, I suppose. And he bought the new cellphone for *me.* We talked about a lot of things and I can see his POV....but more importantly, he can see mine, too. Sooo, here we are and we are going to work things out. I have a good feeling about things now.

Time will tell! I have my eyes wide open now. He actually said he respects me for this whole ordeal.