How to prove BM is working (when she's a trifling, lying, POS)

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Our BM states she only works 5 hours a week, making only $60. We know she works during her EOWe visits with SS and we know she worked during her two week on/off visits with SS last summer.

We try to casually get info from SS13 here and there without drilling him or without him knowing what we are really trying to ask: "Oh did your mom take you here or did she have to work?" or "When your mom's at work what kind of things do you do to keep busy at her house" - you know, we're really sly

She pays no child support. If she IS actually working close to full time, she makes pretty darn close to what DH makes.

When they finalized the divorce, she tried to ask for spousal support and played that she wasnt' working. Neither party was represented and it was very clear that she was falsifying documents (whiting out numbers and retyping them in a different font, etc) and DH called her on it. But because neither party was represented, the judge didn't award anything to anyone.

Fast Forward one year later and its obvious she is working more than she stated last year in court.

DH and I also have a new baby. SS13 deserves support from his mom.

DH is not working for the time being and is receiving paid family leave benefits. We are not sure if he will return to work or if he will stay home with baby as child care will eat up half of his income and I can support us.

What can we do?
If we can PROVE she is working, it's a slam dunk (I think). But she's a shady one.

If we run the calculator on DH's income and her working FT, then she should be paying DH at least $250 a month based on the current visitation schedule.

Ideas?

We'll probably sit down with a lawyer, but just wondering from experience.

You should visit your LCSA

You should visit your LCSA and talk to an employee there. DH has had to do so but for other reasons. See what they have to say and give it some thought. Also, DH might want to consider hiring a PI on BM. Some here have had to do that to figure out what their SKs' BMs are up to, where they live, where they work, etc.

If BM has a facebook account, she may have listed where she works and DH could check into that if possible.

http://www.childsup.ca.gov/CustodialParty.aspx

http://www.childsup.ca.gov/Portals/0/resources/docs/pub160_english.pdf

If she is not working under

If she is not working under the table, then when you show up to court she has to show tax returns and her most recent pay stubs- so that is all you need. File for the CS to be revisited.

She's also the type that

She's also the type that would receive the summons to appear in court and then quit her job.

Private Investigator!!!! We

Private Investigator!!!! We got a lot of value out of having a PI document my Skid's SpermIdiot and his dipshit behavior including under the table cash payments for his work as a plumber while getting pay checks for only 20 hours a week.

I suggest that you give it a try.

This is kind of what I was

This is kind of what I was thinking too.

However when we tried to serve her last time (she'd been lieing about her address, stating she lived in an apartment with her friend, the friend's three year old, the friend's 18 year old son and his wife and their baby - rather than saying where she actually lived: with her girlfriend who she left DH for 7 years prior and the GF's parents).

The process server was also a PI and he wrote up his report and included the 18 year old girl's statement that BM didn't live there etc.

She stated that the PI lied and included a letter from the 18 year old stating it never happened. LOL. This was a licenses process server and PI.

Like I said, we didn't have lawyers at the time so it really wans't worth fighting at that time. Just obvious she lies about everything.