Q... Adjult SD vs. Daughter-in-law

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So I read this article on (in short summery) how blood is thicker then water and this is why it is natural for us to have a deeper bond to our own blood children vs. a step child or non-relative.

This caused a thought to pop into my head, or should I say a question. I do not have a DIL but was just wondering, is it easier to bond to a DIL vs. a ASD?

Which do you all choose?

My MIL has bonded to me

My MIL has bonded to me wonderfully. But that's because she is wonderful herself and she can see how happy her son is, how I treat him, and how I treat her.

I have not bonded to my SD because she is wretched to me, to my DH and to others. Extended family is devoted to her because she is DH's daughter and DH is awesome and beloved.But are they "bonded" to her? Hmmmm?

Her own grandmother LIKES me better. (my mil)

I dont really think its the

I dont really think its the title as it is the person.

I love my SM. Dont like my SKs.

My SM is loving, sweet, nice, kind, just a good person over all.

The skids are liars, manipulators, thieves, lazy. Just not people that I would like to associate it.

Agreed, I think it's more the

Agreed, I think it's more the people than the relationship. It also occurred to me that I know a few adoptive parents who would take serious issue with being told they don't love their adoptive kids as "their own" because they don't share some DNA.

Those are some very good

Those are some very good points! I agree with it being more the person and who they are. I also like the one from AllySkoo on adoption.

Come to thinking of it, I have best friends who are as close as sisters. I guess the pain for me rests in the fact that DH is important to me so I was wish upon wishing that what is important to him (his kids) would at least like me as a friend, not think of me as "another reason" mom and dad will never get back together (and I came along long after they divorced and mom remarried...)

Funny thing is, I have a sister who gets along with her own DIL like I get along with SD's (not so good inspite of her efforts and her being a good person). We can both relate with each other. She is disengaged with her son's wife due to some immature issues with DIL. She has tried as hard as many of us SM's.