BF says my book about Boundaries is psychological BS

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I am shocked.. For 7 out of our 8 years he's had serious boundary issues with his x wife. He let's her cross so many.. I've tried and tried to establish boundaries myself to stop her.. It's not working because he let's her cross them. Please read my other posts regarding her most recent stunt of trying to make me take her boys while her Dh is out of town working.
He has even let her come on our camping vacation with us for the past 6 years..
I put a stop to it last year.. But he's letting her do it again.
I've been given a book on Boundaries that he just happen to. See on the table.. He says that I have to be careful with those self help books as most of the people who write them are batsh** crazy . and that most of the time it really doesn't apply to most people's lives

I am ready to scream. I can't believe that he said that to me. I reminded him I have been setting boundaries for the past 6 years to which he has let her destroy.. This book is not giving me any new ideas..
When I tell him his x wife is too enmeshed in our lives.. And it needs to stop. He says.. "WELL IF YOU SEE IT THAT WAY".
He stated that she knows him and has of a deeper relationship with her than we have..And regardless of the hurt she caused to him by kicking him out and divorcing him.. He will never hate her...
I think I know what I have to do.

He has even let her come on

He has even let her come on our camping vacation with us for the past 6 years.

Surely this entire sentence is one big typo?

Yeah, you know what you need to do if he insists on having a mistress.

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This is a very passive aggressive way of him telling you he's settled for you. You deserve so much better than that. I don't know ANYONE why would be ok with an ex coming on vacation with them. That's not keeping the peace, that's being taken advantage of. Tell him this shit stops now or you walk...and then be prepared to pack and go.

No actually he told me he has

No actually he told me he has a deeper relationship with HER than me..
Oopsie.. He sure put his foot in his mouth.

Clearly your boyfriend is not

Clearly your boyfriend is not over his ex-wife. He's only with you because BM doesn't want his ass.

You need boundaries and self-esteem/respect. Time to find a man who WANTS to be with you. Right now you're wasting time with a man who is making do with what he can get since he can't have the woman he wants.

Thank you.. You are all

Thank you.. You are all right.. I truly have no boundaries. Yes he speaks the truth about his relationship with her. To hear him say that to my face makes me realize alot of things.. Sadly enough. He needs to be back with his x wife.

Sorry to say, but don't walk,

Sorry to say, but don't walk, run. My DH a few times told me "BM was not such a bad person" but if he dared tell me he had a deeper relationship with her, I would have ran...

"My DH cannot admit that BM

"My DH cannot admit that BM has any faults. Which is why I refer to her as "Perfect Pam".

This is cover for his bad decision of choosing her. Mr. Guilty Daddy does this too. He excuses all the horrific crap that she did as a "woman scorned" and "she was just angry." Now if I ever did 1/10000000000th of what the BM did, he'd put my six feet under, no exaggeration.

Men HATE to be reminded of their mistakes! Plus it falls into the "Only I can bash MY family members--outsiders will not be allowed to do so."