A girl needs to tell her BF that there's something called BOUNDARIES and he either needs to set some up with BM or the girl is gonna walk. Have more self respect than to put up with that shit!

I can't count the times BM has called late in the evening/night for some stupid reason or other, and it's always about stuff that she damn well could've waited until the next morning to call DH about. I know she does it to interrupt our evening. She knows the kids are (probably) in bed by then, and DH and I are trying to get a few minutes alone together at the end of the day. She usually calls about something like, "Have you seen so-and-so's homework folder?" or "I need some new tires for my car. Do you know a good place where I can get them cheap?" Just frivolous shit like that.

I mean, hey, it's great that they can communicate so well, but does it have to be at 10:00 at night, when we're trying to get ready to go to sleep (or do other things)? Every time she calls that late, it TOTALLY ruins whatever mood was going on between DH and me up until the phone rang.

I've asked him about just not answering the phone anymore after 9:00pm, but then he says "Well what if it's something really important? What if she had to take one of the boys to the hospital or something like that? You expect me to just not answer? Pshshh. I can't do that!"

Me: "Okay, DH. Just so you know, though, if you had any hopes of getting lucky later, you can thank BM for extinguishing THAT fire." GRRR!

Our BM did this at 8am on a Sunday morning when we were snuggling in bed. We ignored the call (DH would not have dared answer it, although I could tell it was killing him), so she started calling his cell in the kitchen. Then back to the land line. Finally OSD burst in our room saying her mom was trying to get ahold of him to pick up YSD. Not sure why YSD did not pick up her cell and call us herself. We would have answered that. I have had this discussion about answering her calls on our time MANY times. I told him he should immediately say "please send me an email with all this info", or listen to her message and text the answer back. I used the words retrain her over and over again. It is NEVER an emergency, or we have very different ideas of what an emergency is. So, after the Sunday am call, I started unplugging the land line from Friday to Sunday. }:) Didn't tell him, I just do it. She has no business calling on that line anyway. He leaves his cell in the kitchen every night, so we can't hear that. Both SD have cell phones, so she can easily get ahold of them if she needs to.

So she's calling you at hours when you are in bed at night, and they have a DAILY morning talk as well?? There are some serious boundary issues going on here. An email could have been sent with the teams games schedule. I would be bitching up a storm if BM called us at 10pm at night. I would let DH know these phone calls are disrespectful so late at night when she probably knows ss is in bed and you two want your quality time, my fiances xwife looooooves playing mind games like that. If there is an emergency, she will leave a message or call 13 times while you are watching the Hobbit because you know 3 hours is such a long time to not have any contact, then show up at your house. I just rolled my eyes rethinking of that little "issue". I have two minutes till SS12 is out of school.......AkkkkkKKk!!!! I really feel your pain, and you have to get DH on board with these boundaries, because it won't stop otherwise and she's just going to keep at it.