First, I am not "bashing" SD6 but looking for advice/ tips on what may be perhaps the problems that I am seeing, but neither of her BP's want to recognize:

I have a 6 year old SD whom I am becoming very worried about. Over the last year, certain things that she should be learning or even noticing about herself, are not happening.

I'll give you a breakdown on what I am talking about. When eating, she can't hold a fork without making her hand into a "fist" and then can't seem to get the fork in her mouth even, so she tries to eat with her hands. She drops foods all over herself and the table/ floor while "scooping" her food on the table, but she does not seem to even "notice" what she is doing to herself. She will let snot run down her face, no matter how many times you tell her to wipe her face. She can't tell you the time or numbers on a clock. She can't tell you names, school name and just scribbles for pictures, (even though she is trying to stay in the lines.) She is trying to write her ABC's but they are sometimes backwards or she can't seem to "grasp" lower case. She forgets things that you told her 10 mins. ago. She needs help keeping her private clean because she will not wipe properly and still can't even bathe herself at all. I am the only one that is paying any attention to these things too. I can't seem to pin down what the problems may perhaps be but something is wrong. I've noticed at the park also that she never notices any other kids? Her face seems to lack certain normal "emotional" features as well. (blank) Instead of playing with toys, she will just "line" them up in a row.

Thank you in advance. I have nicely confronted her father about these issues who only will turn around and blame the mother. Neither of them will do anything and I have no legal rights to intervene.