Currently going through another rough patch with my partners daughter... her tantrums have got much better as i've told my partner he needed to be harder and more firm instead of telling her off and then giving her a cuddle (defeats the object of telling her off in the first place) but her new thing is if i tell her off (i dont shout, just a firm NO.) is running to daddy and saying 'daddy get her' and crying when there is absolutely no need to cry. It really rubs me up the wrong way as we're a team and the fact she thinks she can play us off against one another at 3 years old! I mentioned this to him that we need to have a united front with the kids. I struggle with it as i've been firm on my 5 year old since day 1. I have never had to really shout at her and especially not hit her or anything like that. His daughter is also 3 and still goes to bed with a BOTTLE of milk, and also has milk throughout the night. He gave her so much milk last night that she threw it all up this morning. And then left me to clean up chunks of milky sick (and i'm petrified of sick - which he knows). He also just put it in the washing machine and didn't bother to actually put a wash on. The washing machine currently said 'end' from a previous cycle so i'm going to play dumb and say i assumed he had done it and it had finished. My daughter is currently at her nans as i have work so the petty part of me is leave it and let him clean it up tomorrow when we have his daughter again for the weekend! To leave it for me to clean knowing i really don't like sick, is just awful