My marriage/family has been a cycle of us against them. Household = Me, DH, BS15, BD15, SD15, SS14. Custody for all four children is primary at our home & EOW at NCP. As to the Great Divide in our home the numbers have varied over the years, but the one thing that has never changed is DH & SS are always on the same side. DH never sees or admits that SS does any wrong. It could be at home, school, friend's house, BM's house ...believe me there are a lot of issues everywhere SS goes. Over the years the competition and jealousy between SS & BS has caused arguments and fights that have nearly split DH & I up. It's like we go through cycles. In the beginning the fighting over these two boys was unbearable. Then DH stopped getting involved as much & I would deal with both the boys (because I know BS is NOT innocent). Then every 6 months to a year SS will get to DH and spin his version of a story & DH will fly off the handle and go into the idiotic cycle again. I don't understand, why DH does this? How can he not see that neither of these boys are telling the entire truth & neither of them are 100% innocent & in all honestly if one should be punished, I've learned 99.9% of the time they both should. Disengaging is not the answer for this one...I WISH...I've used it in all the situations I can with the skids & BM. How in the name of all that is sane do you keep your marriage in tack? :? :? :?