Being a parent or even worse, geographically distant parent must be difficult. However, does any parents understand what it is like to be a stepparents? Our obstacles? Our feelings?
No, I don't think one can know what it's like to step-parent unless you've been there. Much like not knowing what it's like to be a parent unless you've been one. That's why we have these forums so we can share/vent our concerns when it seems like we have no where else to go. Step-parenting can be very isolating at times.
Can I suggest you do some reading about step-parenting? Through reading, I learned from the beginning about the dynamics that occur with all the parties involved in a family. I wasn't a parent, so needed some professional advise. The book really helped.
It helped to validate what I was feeling and how I could deal with those feelings. I read "Step by Step Step-parenting." Of course that was 11 years ago and there may be better ones out there today. I didn't have this site to go to, so the book was a "warm and cozy" for me to lean on.
Actually I believe that it's the males who don't get it. (pardon me to all you guys who are actually trying)
I think that stepmothers have it the worst cos the men seem to think that we are in the dark ages where the woman is reponsible for more of the parenting. What's more............husbands dont think that their little princes or princesses NEED any parenting. They just think that the stepmum., their wife, is making an issue
Actually I believe that it's the males who don't get it. (pardon me to all you guys who are actually trying)
I think that stepmothers have it the worst cos the men seem to think that we are in the dark ages where the woman is reponsible for more of the parenting. What's more............husbands dont think that their little princes or princesses NEED any parenting. They just think that the stepmum., their wife, is making an issue.
What about the fact that you can't seem to talk to your DH's cos they are ultra sensitive to anything you say about THEIR KID, especially if you do not have any biokids yourself!!!
ARRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!
what you said in you final paragraph really hit home for me. I try to explain to my fiance some of the difficulties i have with adjusting to my role as an SM and it feels as though he brushes just brushes it off. especially since i don't have kids myself. It can be frustrating and i try to stay positive, but it sucks when you feel as though the one person who you are suppose to be totally open with, is making you feel as though what you are going through is no big deal!
Any Kind of Parenting is Hard
No, I don't think one can know what it's like to step-parent unless you've been there. Much like not knowing what it's like to be a parent unless you've been one. That's why we have these forums so we can share/vent our concerns when it seems like we have no where else to go. Step-parenting can be very isolating at times.
Can I suggest you do some reading about step-parenting? Through reading, I learned from the beginning about the dynamics that occur with all the parties involved in a family. I wasn't a parent, so needed some professional advise. The book really helped.
It helped to validate what I was feeling and how I could deal with those feelings. I read "Step by Step Step-parenting." Of course that was 11 years ago and there may be better ones out there today. I didn't have this site to go to, so the book was a "warm and cozy" for me to lean on.
Can someone Help SSHOHO
fix her picture? It's distorting the view!
Welcome SShoho! I know you will find this sight useful; what to do, what not to do, and mostly comfort!!
We are a motley crew of different experiences. some are BMs only, SM only, or Both AND Ditto for the DH's. Each of us bring something to the table.
Help SSHOHO
I deleted the photo for now. Don't have time to figure out how to manage it. Besides there is more information to read -- this is a great site.
i dont think so
Actually I believe that it's the males who don't get it. (pardon me to all you guys who are actually trying)
I think that stepmothers have it the worst cos the men seem to think that we are in the dark ages where the woman is reponsible for more of the parenting. What's more............husbands dont think that their little princes or princesses NEED any parenting. They just think that the stepmum., their wife, is making an issue
i dont think so
Actually I believe that it's the males who don't get it. (pardon me to all you guys who are actually trying)
I think that stepmothers have it the worst cos the men seem to think that we are in the dark ages where the woman is reponsible for more of the parenting. What's more............husbands dont think that their little princes or princesses NEED any parenting. They just think that the stepmum., their wife, is making an issue.
What about the fact that you can't seem to talk to your DH's cos they are ultra sensitive to anything you say about THEIR KID, especially if you do not have any biokids yourself!!!
ARRRRRRRGGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!!
what you said in you final
what you said in you final paragraph really hit home for me. I try to explain to my fiance some of the difficulties i have with adjusting to my role as an SM and it feels as though he brushes just brushes it off. especially since i don't have kids myself. It can be frustrating and i try to stay positive, but it sucks when you feel as though the one person who you are suppose to be totally open with, is making you feel as though what you are going through is no big deal!