Disengagement appears to be working
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So SD14 (woot! note the updated siggy!) called my fiance yesterday. (Side note, the guy says "oh yes, she's been much more communicative lately" and i say "of course, her freakin' birthday is coming as is Christmas and she wants stuff!") She apparently asked him if i was going to "make anything" for her birthday. He told her i made a cake for her.
In telling me this, he said that he thinks she was jealous of the cake i made her cousin.
I told him its like dating. You ignore them, the beg for attention. Curious to see if she expresses any gratitude tonight. If she does, ill be sure to tell her i made the cake because her dad asked me to!!
Kinda bummed you made the
Kinda bummed you made the cake but glad you got a response. If there's no gratitude I hope you aren't going to get her something or do something for her for xmas. I just recently tried this myself and, for the most part, I like it. Update later please.
i felt it was the right thing
i felt it was the right thing to do for my fiance...def didnt do it for her, and its no where near as fancy a cake as i did for the cousin.
the only thing i did for her for christmas last year was her stocking. that was my "gift" so if he wants her to have a stocking with us, he can do it.
QOTD from my mom when i was baking the cake: "cant her mother give her a birthday party?" lol
You must make some bomb-ass
You must make some bomb-ass cake for a spoiled skid to be jealous of it. I want one.
shockingly, i got a "thank
shockingly, i got a "thank you for my party" when i dropped SD off last night (left her father to clean up, drop off was the MUCH more desirable option!)
i still think ill continue to retreat until after the holidays....let's see if she's really trying to change or if its just because its the season!