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Submitted by over step on Fri, 07/18/2014 - 5:48pm

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I've laid it all out there to DH and made it very clear to him that he has been very disrespectful to me and how I've decided to make a change for the sake of myself, him and SD14. That change? I have control when it affects me directly and he is solely responsible for raising his DD without relying on me to help. I'm done. It's now my time to take care of me. Self-preservation. But yet somehow I really don't feel any relief. I feel no better than I did before our talk. My DH acts like everything is bunnies and roses now. All I keep thinking is do I have the strength to make this work and was I really heard?

Next on my agenda...a discussion with SD to set my clear expectations and consequences.

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Submitted by peacemaker on Sat, 07/19/2014 - 7:11am

He listened to you but...did he hear you?

The true test will come when you actually do what you have informed you you are going to do...He will probably challenge you to go back to the way His life patterns have dictated this situate be handled...but, that is where you live out the changes you made...Then you will know whether he Heard you or not...usually it takes a couple of instances before they begin to understand that you meant what you said...

...then that is where the rubber hits the road....because it will require him to change his behaviors and life patterns that he has established over a period of time now...and there is where you will find out if he truly supports you or not...

It requires patience on your part...a leopard can change it;s spots...it just takes consistency and time...I feel you...I have been disengaged for over a year now, and it seems like my DH is just starting to get it,,,I chose to do it with or without his support because I needed to disengage for my own personal health reasons...