Going to be drama!!
If that dress for color guard captain tryouts doesn't arrive in the next few hours, I know that drama will ensue!!! BOTH SD15 and BM will throw a huge fit that DH didn't pay $60 for overnight shipping of the thing...he already paid $25 for expedited! SHEESH! This dress isn't even a REQUIREMENT! SD15 just wants it to try to impress...like this dress will make her lack of leadership character and mediocre skills less noticeable! No...DH is being nice because he had extra money from a bonus in his pay check...which he received just this past Friday! The dress was ordered as soon as possible after DH got the money, but that will not be good enough for anyone.
But you know who will get blamed for it all? ME!!! Yup...it will be MY fault that DH didn't pay the extra for overnight shipping...because I'm a tyrant about the money (well, considering that typically any extras come out of MY pocket, because DH barely brings home enough every month to cover his share, think I have a right to say no to things that aren't necessity). Keep in mind, BM DOESN'T PAY A DIME OF SUPPORT! SD15 lives with us, and BM doesn't provide financially for the child at all...I'm lucky if SD15 goes over to BM's one weekend a month (and by that I mean that I actually get some time away from her). Yeah...it will be my fault because I would have said no to the dress if that extra money hadn't showed up, which means that it couldn't be ordered any earlier! Oh, and DH will say he was "afraid" to spend $60 for overnight shipping (for a $60 dress) because I would have gotten upset about it. Yeah...it will get blamed on me all the way around!
SD15 doesn't even deserve the dress, and I sure hope for the sake of the other girls she doesn't weasel her way in as captain! Everyone on the planet is telling her how awesome and amazing she is (while the whole weeks she has been sporting a black eye because she smacked herself in the face with her flag....AGAIN). SD15 even said right out that she wants to be captain so that they have to do what SHE says! That is the wrong reason to want captain! SD15 is probably a huge reason they changed try-outs to be outside judges, because she was doing all she could to stab the other girls in the back (constantly tattling to the band directors about this and that).
Part of me hopes that the dress doesn't show, for the basic reason that it will force SD15 to do the same thing the other girls are doing...come up with their own "costumes" with clothing they already have (most of the girls are using the winter guard dresses). The other part doesn't want the backlash if it doesn't show up.
It just really irks me! BM
It just really irks me! BM couldn't parent the girl, so she dumps on us (don't forget, BM's husband doesn't want the lying, pot smoking princess to influence his young son)! BM actually MADE DH draw up an affidavit that he wouldn't go after her for child support, because the "poor dear" doesn't have a job! How is that our problem?
Problem is, she raised the princess to believe she is entitled to the world, so BM thinks she has the right to say how money in this house is spent...including my money! BS19 is going to college...so that must mean DH is loaded, right? {Clears throat} Excuse me, miss thang...some of us actually take care of our own kids and don't expect others to do it for us!
The entitlement is just getting on my last nerve, and the fact that I'm always made the target when the dear princess doesn't get her way! WAH!!! It's not my circus, she is not my monkey! Want her to have stuff? Get off your butt and get a job, and buy things for her yourself! I'm surely not going to buy crap for someone who treats me like dirt every single chance she gets!
Well, the dress got here. @
Well, the dress got here. @ punkin_punkin...yeah, I personally have a problem with paying shipping that costs the same or more than the item being purchased! How do places get away with that crap? I've done a lot of eBay things (had a bunch of nice clothes in great condition after I lost weight that I couldn't wear any more), did some fast shipping and never came close to $60! And sorry...no way I can justify that kind of money on a dress for just a tryout! If it was the uniform for an entire marching season or winter guard season it would be different...but not for a one time thing that will last an hour! Especially when she doesn't do anything around the house to help, and just expects it! In my day, yeah, I might have gotten the dress, but you can bet there was going to be a Saturday I had to clean the house for my parents...dust, vacuum, mop...it wouldn't ever be for free!
These princesses have it too easy...gimme, gimme, gimme entitlement! How dare we ask them to do a single chore in return for the extras they demand from us!
Oh, and SD15 brings DH her paperwork for her class choices next year, and cops attitude with him because he want to actually read what he is signing! She tells him he doesn't need to be concerned with her class choices...she just needs it signed! Seriously?
The tryouts are going on as I
The tryouts are going on as I type this. I know it may be bad, but I'm really, really hoping she SD15 doesn't make officer. I still can't get over her attitude last night...telling DH he didn't need to worry about her course selections? Really? I was happy that DH actually set SD15 in her place...told her he was going to be concerned about her course selections whether she liked it or not...she was still a child...and if she didn't like it, she could make sure certain changes were made in her course selections that would take out any fun activity (such as guard). DH is also not one to sign something without reading it fully, and this seems to totally bug SD15. I mean, what is she trying to hide? If she wasn't trying to hide things, why be so worried about DH reading any papers she hands him to sign? Personally, I think it is totally a control thing...she only gets his signature because she is required to, when in reality, she doesn't like the idea that he has any say at all in what she does still! When she lived with BM, BM would just blindly sign anything, so SD15 could do whatever she wanted. SD15 doesn't like there being ANY chance for someone to tell her, "Nope, sorry...not doing this!"