Hi Everyone, I'm new here and am in desperate need of advise - I have a step son, who is 17 years old, and he is the most annoying individual I have ever met. He moved in when he was 3, because his mom could not handle him. Well, neither could dad, so he spoiled him and never punished him. I had to step in and take control, because I had no choice. It was either take charge, or get a divorce, it was that bad.

Not only did I have to deal with this kid getting kicked out of preschool, hitting teachers, destroying classrooms, etc. but I also had to deal with his dim witted mother who would throw her weight around, run her mouth, but would never pay child support (even though she had a court order to do so, 11 whopping dollars a week) and would stick me with all the responsibility of her child. She would only take him every now and then, so I was basically stuck with him 24/7 fit throwing, eating frozen food from the freezer, all kinds of odd behavior!

Some of his behavior improved, or so I thought. He was just being more sneaky, that's all. What he does now, is go behind the scenes and say horrible things to my kids, and my nephew that has cerebral palsy, calling him "worthless". When the kids tell me and my hubby, he doesn't do anything about it, and if I say anything, it causes an argument. My SS even tells the other kids to go ahead and tell on him, his dad will believe him over anyone.

So now, on top of all this, my SS has some of the most annoying habits known to mankind. First of all, I have to tell him EVERY day, to clean up the bathroom after he takes a shower ( I don't think he even uses soap while in the shower, I never smell it when he comes out, and the soap is dry, like it hasn't even been touched). And EVERY day, he'll leave something in there, I feel, just to annoy me. For instance, he'll clean up everything, but he'll leave his socks, and throw the towel over the toilet, EWWW! and I tell him not to do it, and he'll roll his eyes, and do it again the next day. We have to force him to brush his teeth, use deodorant, or even bathe for that matter. He will go to school with yuck mouth and smelling arm pits that literally stink to high heaven, I'm not joking.

Then, he plays his stereo, not loud, but just loud enough to drive me crazy. He listens to speed metal, so that is annoying in and of itself, but he plays his stereo at night, while he sleeps, which is fine, I don't care but I can hear it down the hall and EVERY, EVERY night, I have to tell him to turn it down. The next annoying habit he has is leaving a mess at the kitchen table after he eats, not a lot, but just enough, like he's leaving his mark. For instance, if he has pancakes for breakfast, he'll leave a puddle of syrup on the table, in plain view for him to see, but he won't wipe it up. Or if he's eating corn for dinner, he'll leave a pile of it on the table, again, in plain sight and he just leaves it.

I know this is long, but I really want to be as clear as possible, so you'll get the entire story. I'll provide one last example of his annoying behavior - he NEVER leaves the house! he is constantly under foot. Most 17 year olds have friends, a girl friend, a social life. This kid wonders around the house 24/7 - we have a small house, so every time I turn a corner, there is his face. He plays x-box all the time, or stands by the water cooler, filling his cup to the top, drinking it down, filling it up again, drinking it down, on, and on, and on, and on....

He is driving me insane. I want him to get a life, buzz off, see ya later. I 'm tired of him getting babied, getting the other kids into trouble, loitering around the house all day, (and when he does go to his moms, he is calling ALL weekend. if I don't answer the phone, he'll hang up, and call back over and over and over again)..I want him to move out, I've had enough, I don't think I can take much more...PLEASE HELP!!!!!!! I need advise!