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I'm ready for SD17 and SS18 to move out now!

momof5_1969's picture

Both of them have been extremely distant and ignoring me more than normal lately, and i've had enough. If they hate me that much i want them to just move out and be done with it. I think they've been visiting their sister, SD22, too much, and are drinking her "poison." So I am the bad guy in all scenarios.

Today I asked SS18 to move his car -- he always parks his car in the driveway, and he knows that i don't like him to park there because that is where we park -- and when I asked him to move it he started to make a snide comment to me, but stopped himself thank goodness, otherwise I think i would've let him have it.

Last night SD17 asks if we will start keeping "healthy" food in the house. Keep in mind all I buy is healthy food. She just chooses to make unhealthy options, and whenever i do buy salads, vegies, etc., I end up throwing a lot out because i'm usually the only one who eats it. So she says she wants to make "wraps" -- i then show her the wrap stuff that i purchased. She then snottily says "what am I supposed to put in that" -- so i begin to tell her in a nice tone. She tells me snottily -- 'that's not healthy." (mayo or cream cheese) --- you can use a small amount -- but she instead wants me to purchase her RANCH to use instead! So i tell her Dad in front of her, " you deal with her because she obviously does not want my help" -- she says " you know I can hear you guys talking' --- we continued talking as though we couldn't even hear her. i told him that i was trying to help her and she begins getting snotty with me as I'm trying to help her, that i'm done! He tries to get me to calm down -- then he finally makes her apologize for being rude to me -- thankfully. But i did get to say that ranch is MADE from mayo so same amount of unhealthy factor that she was spouting when i was suggesting food options for her.

She doesn't want my help? Fine! Figure it out yourself! She is very overweight and I've tried to help her before, and I keep healthy options in the house. But if she overeats, I can't help that!

SD17's sister SD22 told her that she could move in with her this summer. DH and i are thinking about doing it. At least for 2 weeks. i don't think she'll last that long anyways. i think she'll get tired of being SD22's slave and babysitter -- and that the two of them will end up in a fight after a short amount of time, and SD17 will realize that it's not so bad here at home.

needed to vent -- thanks for listening.

duct_tape's picture

She's looking for someone to blame her problems on. Take her to the grocery store, let her buy her own healthy crap and what will she say?

momof5_1969's picture

yes newwife....her being overweight is far from my problem after I saw a pic she had taken while we were ount of town -- she took a picture of junk food that she and her friends were purchasing at the store -- it was a grocery cart full at the bottom just of junk food, and they ate it all in an evening. She spends all of her spare money on food. When she buys 'coffees' they are with huge piles of whipped cream and tons of sugar. Her after school "snacks" are an entire meal, and then she eats another meal at dinner time. Seriously! And she wants to blame me for not having healthy food in the house! When she does eat salads, she puts more salad dressing on it than there is salad.

i've tried to talk to her about healthy eating, but she doesn't want to hear me. And yes she is extremely overweight. The girl can EAT. She even eats more than her 18 year old brother!

i want to tell her its about healthy choices. Good grief. I'm so tired of them.

She just posted on her FB page that she is in a relationship. i doubt it. I think its a one sided relationship. Long story, but the boy when he lived near us didn't even come over to see her and only would text her on the phone. i think in her mind they have a relationship. Now he lives in Tenneessee, she can say they are in a relationship because what is he going to say? i think she is delusional. Scary.