THIS is why!
BS19 went to the dance hall Sunday night. On Sundays, it is "teen night" at the dance hall. Who comes into the place but SD15!! You may be thinking, "If it is teen night, what is the big deal?" On teen night, the place is usually filled with 17-19 year olds, and there is SD15...Miss "I Like To Talk To Older Guys"! She was there a good while without seeing BS19 or his friend...they made it a point to not let her know they were there. There she was until the wee hours...dancing with this older guy, and that older guy. DH was PISSED when he found out!!! Again, SD15 is supposed to be spending time with BM!! He called BM (who is out of the hospital now), and she claims she supposedly gave SD15 permission to go to the dance hall with some friends!
And THIS is why if SD15 ends up preggers, I'm demanding she move to BM's! Yes, DH makes some bone-head moves in what he allows SD15 to do, but he would not allow her to go to a dance hall where there will mostly be 17-19 year old guys with hormones raging just looking for some sweet "innocent" thing to bag, especially knowing that she is a bit provocative (aka, this summer's boob selfies). BM didn't know that BS19 would be there with his friend...SD15 did not know. Granted...BS19 kept and eye on her from afar and made sure she didn't leave with some guy, but that is all he could do. He couldn't follow her to the bathroom, etc.
Just stupid!!! It is just a matter of time...
We've already had that
We've already had that discussion. He seriously does not believe that his dear princess is having sex or will have sex, so he doesn't see the need. As for BM? Either she is in the same delusional world as DH, or she is secretly hoping that SD15 will get preggers and trap some guy into marrying her. I mean, that is so BM's M.O...it is what she did to both DH and her current husband! BM would probably gladly open her door to SD15 if she were preggers:
1. BM would make sure that SD15 would get all the welfare benefits.
2. BM would make sure that SD15 stuck it to the baby daddy for child support...poor kid would have his future ruined by these people (I say poor kid...for picking the wrong girl to bag).
3. BM would probably try to find some way to stick it to DH for money.
Sad, but I've known this woman for too many years...I've seen how she works!
Wow your BM has done high
Wow your BM has done high hopes for the SD !!! You go BM !!
Somehow you gotta he through to your DH that the bc shot is in the sd best interested. You need to bring the house down on this girl. We all have been teenagers n we all know what is what like to be a 15 year old girl. Ummm ask your hubby what he remembers about being a 17~19 year old boy. This will be protecting her from getting pregnant.
trust me, this doesnt work,
trust me, this doesnt work, at least with my fiance.
he was having sex at 14, met BM when she was 14 and he was 18 (i know, i know!) and to this day loves sex (which is fine with me! lol)
even he thinks SD13 is not having sex with her 14 year old boyfriend of nearly THREE years.
Yeah they are just holding
Yeah they are just holding hands for 3 years. He just can't except the fact his daughter is growing up.
Boys haven't changed ~ boys are still like your man was. Horny roads ~ he is in major denial. It amazes me. I used to be the same way but I started to listen to people n open my eyes. I was a virgin till I was 18 ~ but my fiancé hmmmmm lost his at 15. Girls are having sex a lot early than when we were younger if not sex ~ they for someone reason believe oral sex isn't sex. Check out rainbow parties ~ chicken head parties. That will open your eyes real quick as to what our teenagers are doing. They are way more advance then some of us were.
Like was said above...can't
Like was said above...can't BM remember when she was 15? Can't DH remember when he was 17-19? We all know what it was like those teen years...and the hormones do rage. Problem in this day and age? All these reality shows and social media! You have "Teen Mom" making these girls famous. You have social media where teens can express themselves in a way we never could...provocative pictures, talking to older guys all over the world, etc. SD15 was caught talking to some 17-year-old online when she was 13 telling him she was 17! Not that long ago, she was video Skyping some guy in New York (we are in Texas), and who knows how old he was. The boob selfies. This girl is totally guy crazy, and DH does not see a need for BC?
Oh, and we don't buy the bikini suits either. We bought her a very sensible tankini (wears like a one piece by covering the tummy). We don't know who bought her the bikinis she has been posting pictures of herself in! The last one she took pictures of herself in is one of those where the bottoms are strings on the sides that tie...yeah...very tiny bottoms. The top barely covered her. SD15 loves the pool...she goes there to throw herself at boys all day...not swim!
ive said this before, but
ive said this before, but some BM's WANT these girls pregnant or at the very least would not be mad but rather happy. it keeps their girls close to them forever - requires them to be dependent on them forever. they want that. they like that. they have nothing else.
i had a rare opportunity to
i had a rare opportunity to see BM's facebook wall when we were out with a mutual friend a few weeks ago. OMG, her wall is FULL of bikini shots of SD13. Our friend was appalled that BM would post that stuff.
Biggest problem is the kids
Biggest problem is the kids themselves! DH has tried to teach SD15 the importance of SD15 keeping her social media locked down so that only those on her friends lists can see things. He even went in and set it all up that way. However, SD15 WANTS the attention, so she went in herself and unlocked it all and changed her password so that DH can't get back in to fix it!
I was talking to BD23 yesterday. She was saying a lot of the same things we talk about on this board. BD23 admits that she was a bit of a brat in her teen years, and says if she could go do it again, she would do it different. She says that SD15 is always telling her that I'm always on her case and that DH is always yelling at her. BD23 tells her, "My mom wouldn't be on your case for nothing and dad wouldn't yell at you for nothing, so what are you doing to upset them?" BD23 has also seen SD15's posts, and says she often wants to drive home just to slap her! Between the boob selfies which are in appropriate, and all the "woe is me" depressing crap SD15 posts all the time for attention (BD23's words...even she recognizes that SD15 only puts that stuff up for attention), BD23 says that sometimes she just wants to remove SD15 from her feeds, but she tries to keep an eye on SD15 and tries to stop her from doing stupid stuff. SD15 will not even listen to BD23!
BD23 says often that she is afraid that SD15 will end up preggers. She seems to obsessed with guys, and then there are the pictures that she puts of herself out there. BD23 noticed that when SD15 made her profile pic on Instagram one of her boob selfies, her followers went up by about 100 in just a couple of days. THAT is a bit scary, as we both are sure many of those are pervs.
Thankfully, after DH getting
Thankfully, after DH getting on to BM this past weekend for her stupid posts, it looks like BM got rid of her Facebook page. Hopefully, she doesn't bring it back up!
LOL...maybe, but doubtful.
LOL...maybe, but doubtful. She isn't that smart to figure out to dork with Facebook settings. She has had one of these temper tantrums before and just deleted her account. That is probably what has happened again.
Most states will allow a 15yo
Most states will allow a 15yo to get on birth control at that age without parental consent. Take her to Planned Parenthood (who call tell you if she's eligible) and get her started.
She's gladly go along but don't expect her to be grateful.
Depro, NorPlant or an IUD.
Depro, NorPlant or an IUD. She needs one of these NOW! They won't protect her from diseases (Teens are festering furnaces for VD bugs) but at least she may not end up a 16 & Pregnant/Teen Mom.
At 15 her moral foundation is set and it does not look like abstinence is likely with this young woman.